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Originally Posted by mimsyborogoves
I have a little issue on my hands and I don't really know how to approach it, lol. I have a friend who has voiced to me that he wants to start going to the gym, and asked me if he could go with me when I go. Like, being my new gym buddy. I wouldn't have a problem with this at all, except he doesn't have a car so it's really more like he just wants to me to take him to the gym so he can work out. And I'm wondering if he thinks if he goes through me, he can get a free ride and a "free" membership. He's told me to just let him know whenever I'm going... but I don't want to have to go get him every time I want to go to the gym. Maybe that sounds selfish, but I don't want him to rely on me to get to the gym. I'm not gonna go every day, and I wanna go whenever I wanna go and not have to worry about him and what he's doing. Is that selfish? Would you take him up on that? I don't know what to tell him without sounding like a selfish jerk.
You don't even have to worry about this. It sounds like he was asking for an open invitation rather than a huge question you need to stop your life for and think about and then sit him down and give your answer.
Just keep going to the gym and doing what you're doing without him. If he brings it up again, just say something like "it's too much hassle for me to go with someone, I just like to go alone". and that's it. case closed.
People always feel the need to explain themselves to other people or protect their feelings, but you really don't have to. It's your life.
I've experienced times in my life where someone has said "no" to me or given me an obvious hint. And I get it, and move on.