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Originally Posted by luckystreak
I understand this but at 20 years old, I feel like I should be a little more youthful in terms of my body. Alot of my friends have beautiful, jiggle-free bodies and I know its possible. Im at my peak in terms of looks, but I just dont feel like I am. I see mothers of 3 children who have better bodies than I do in a bikini.. it's just not what I had envisioned. I am so proud of how far I've come, and I like my body, but in a bikini.. i still hide.
As one of those moms who looks hotter now than I did before any children, I can confidently tell you that with rare exception the women with those bodies are the ones who WORKED for them. Even naturally slender women look fairly fleshy and skinny-fat (or waifish) without a workout routine to support lean mass as well as limit body fat. I have yet to meet a woman or even girl (we'll use that term for the 15-20 crowd) who has a firm, lean body without athletics or strength regimens to attribute to it. Hiking, cycling, lifting, Zumba, some yoga types, whatever, they all DO work to make their bodies look that way.
And you're talking a lot about what you envisioned. Please be sure you have realistic expectations for the work you're willing to do. As a very wise ChickieChick has said, if you're not willing to do the additional sweating or cutting back to get the lean and hard look, you're going to have to do the MENTAL adjustment of being satisfied with how you look, where you are. Otherwise you're going to be discontent for no good reason other than mismatched and inflated expectations, and that's NO cause to be upset by the mirror when it is so simple to reframe