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Originally Posted by Heitina
I started dieting at 12 years old....I am now 47. I have wasted many years feeling guilty, embarrassed, ashamed....even though I feel like this, part of me wants to fail & that scares me.
I know this is more then "about the food" and I have a difficult time talking to a psychologist...cause I say whatever needs to be said...so I'm not really helping myself
I decided to see a therapist who does CranialSacral Therapy.
Wow, this really jumped out at me. I have suffered from chronic depression for as long as I can remember, and have found that unless I just plow ahead and make the best of things and think positive, it's just too hard. Just today, I was talking my walk, musing to myself and I thought about how many of my friends are so disgusted with the state of the world and all the screwed up stuff in it, and I think, yes, all of that is true, but I can not expend all of my energies thinking about it and I'm no good to anybody if I can't keep myself going and if that takes my little bubble of love, then so be it. I don't ignore the crap, but I choose to look at life through a prism of love. I know... that sounds corny...
When it comes to the personal thoughts, that really comes out with this weight stuff. All the years of self-loathing, memories of cruel things people have said and I internalized. I bet we've all been there. Not truly seeing ourselves in the mirror because the truth is too painful. I've said it before, my body 'then' was a prison that I could not seem to break out of. Now that I am free of it, reinventing, re-everything about myself, I know that with what is left of my life, I will never go back to that prison. I'm 59 now, but I'm not going to spend one second regretting the past - just not worth it. All those cruel people and society thinking it is okay to hurt fat people can go jump in the lake, and that is as polite as I can make it.
I would just keep talking and talking and writing all you can. The 'real' feelings will come out eventually and you will heal yourself of all that lousy pain so you can embrace this bright new future you are building for yourself.
I am fascinated by cranial-sacral therapy - tell us how it goes. I'd love to hear more about what happens and how it helps.
Good luck!
Margaret