Hope it's ok to ask this kind of question here!!! I certainly do not want to offend anyone's sensibilities! Wasn't sure exactly where to ask this because it isn't really anything to do with weight loss, but in a way kind of, but not completely...
Little background:
DH and I have been together for nearly 9 years (2003), married 6 (2006); I was 20 when we met, 21 when we started dating, he was 33 (to make the math easy I'm now 29 and he's 41). I didn't think I was a baby then but I was! We had DD in May 2009, and DS was born the very end of 2011 (both planned) and are now (permanently) done having kids. I was on the pill all throughout our relationship which didn't effect my sex drive for the first couple years, but did at some point (not sure when because it was gradual over a few pill switches). Sex life kind of dwindled, has ebbed and flowed throughout the years (fairly normal I guess), and as I gained weight the sex drive plummeted even lower. After DS was born we decided that I wouldn't be on the pill anymore and he would get a vasectomy. It's been AWESOME not being on the pill in combination with losing weight because my sex drive has come back completely, maybe even more (they say the 30s rock for that right? And I'm almost 30!).
Anyway, so all that said, while things are definitely way better than they have been in years, in a way I feel like we've started over (I think that's a good thing actually). Sometimes I feel like I have completely lost the spark of things; originality, experimentation, confidence, etc. etc.
I'd love any advice and/or commiseration from all of you who are willing (men or women, actually a man's POV might be interesting). I'd be especially grateful to those of you who have been in long term relationships that have a strong sex life!