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Originally Posted by mimsyborogoves
I don't know; it really doesn't bother me that much. And I really don't think he'd FORCE me to shave if I didn't really want to, but I mean I do things that involve my mouth, too, and if I'm expecting him to stay a certain way, I believe he has every right to expect me to do the same thing. It's not like he won't have sex with me at all; he just won't do THAT. People have their preferences, and if he were going to do things specifically for me, I don't see why I shouldn't do them for him. It's tit for tat.
I'm sorry, the topic really hits a soft spot, and like I said, it's just a personal oomph from a biased stand point.
Which is why I gave you tips. The guys that demanded (and it was a demand) that I shave would also NOT do any hair removal of their own. I think it's awesome if your guy does for you.
I also think it's how comfortable you are. If you're completely fine and it's no pressure, then I say go for it! There is a lot of good advice and it's truly experimental as not every gal is the same in skin conditions, hair, and such. Some girls can use throw away razors in a hury and never have a problem (such as my cousin...) others ALWAYS have some irritation and itching.
I didn't mean it to come out as strong as it did. I just know every guy that did that to me "Shave or else you don't get any pleasure from me" was a HORRID relationship. They were all selfish in bed, one would just roll over and tell me he was horny... on top. I once mentioned I wasn't in the mood nor was I wet (hint hint...) and his answer was he didn't want blue balls because they hurt OH SO BAD and to get the lube. Which became our foreplay... He rolled over, I got the lube.
This guy was my problem and manipulated me in many ways, I know this now but at the time he was my first and only guy to look twice at me and I hate to admit I totally fell into the "high school girl" outlook and did so much for him. He wasn't the only "real gem" that I dated either.
Just EVERY guy that has told me this, Shave or else you don't get anything from me... has just been god awefull. I know not all men are that way, and I don't know how he asked, how he suggested it, or any of the details. So if you're completely comfortable, then awesome.
If he ever asks for anal though... say no. Not only is it uncomfortable and painful, but it can cause... gross things... to happen. Which after about 10 minutes of "please stop" and crying on my part... was some how my fault that he got you know what on him... GROSS and NOT ok. Also the wake up call needed to tell douche boy friend one to finally take a hike.