There is MAJOR DRAMA happening in my family now... I'll keep this brief and leave out some details for privacy but I hope you can get the outline.
My sister, who is 24 and still lives with our parents, is dating a man in his 40s. She says he treats he well (but is NOT behaving like a sugar daddy) and is a nice guy. My parents, when they found out, FLIPPED OUT. There were threats of violence and threats of disownment all mixed in with alcohol... they even found out where the boyfriend lived and went to his house to confront and threaten him.
I found out about all this from my sister after it happened. I'm definitely concerned about my sister dating this older man, but I'm way more concerned about how my parents are reacting. I don't want them to hurt anyone physically or emotionally or to get in trouble with the police (which would result in my dad losing his job). I talked with my mom briefly and just implored her to try to stay calm and don't let my dad get too worked up for a few days until they can assimilate the news. Apparently all they know about this guy is his age, nothing about his behavior toward my sister.
I feel like they are treating my sister like she's 16, not 24. I told her it's her business who she dates and the only reason it's any of their affair is because she's still living with them. I've told her many times before that she should move out but I think it finally sunk in this time and she will be saving up money to get her own place in the next few months.
Do you think there's anything more I should say to my parents to get them to calm down about this and not do anything they will regret? When my parents' reaction blows over, what kind of conversation should I have with my sister about her boyfriend? She's fairly baggage-less and this guys is divorced with kids.