Hi guys,
I'm looking for some advice to help my boyfriend navigate the wide world of diets/lifestyle changes. We've been both trying to get healthy since moving in together about a month ago and it's been really difficult for him to stick with a plan or get motivated. When I sat down and told him that I wouldn't be mad if he just wasn't ready to make the change with me, he just got down on himself. I want to motivate him but it's clear that the attitudes and changes that work great for me don't have the same effect for him.
One of the biggest problems comes in the form of his almost complete aversion to veggies and fruits. We're on a multivitamin to tackle the lack of nutrients in his diet, but because he won't eat much besides corn, some spinach, and a few berries it's been tough for him to stay full and satisfied. I'm hoping to get him to try some fruits or veggies but he's quite resistant and has a problem with their textures.
A secondary issue that I find is that he has a problem with every plan we've come across. He doesn't want to do meal replacement, he doesn't want to cut out carbs, etc. I suggested calorie counting for him and put him on the equivalent of what I'm doing which should yield about a 1 lb loss per week before factoring in any exercise. This gave him 2200 calories a day to work with (I'm on 1800), but because of his food choices and aversion to veggies he never got too far with 2200 a day. He also drinks at least 6 glasses of skim milk a day, a habit he's had since he was a boy, which turned his 2200 calories into 1700 for actual solid food.
I'm frustrated because he insists on trying to lose weight with me yet he just won't put in the effort like changing his attitude or finding substitutes & swaps that work for him. I'm at the point now where I have no more suggestions or tips for him. Sorry for the long post, but I just wanted to make sure that I detailed his dieting quirks just in case anyone has had a similar experience. Any suggestions would help appreciated!
Thanks guys!