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Originally Posted by Trolsk
I've had a lot of negative thoughts about how I look, particularly about my face.
I've even gone as far as look up where to get plastic surgery, costs etc.
I always have these sort of feelings in the back of my mind, but it's strange; one minute I feel like the most beautiful person in the world and the next, I am the ugliest one.
I think that the feeling of being "beautiful" is misguided, at least for me. Because I'm not pretty.
As I've gained weight I've just felt more and more depressed and I feel as though the only way out is to get plastic surgery on my face.
I have no idea how to counter this, although I guess my feelings come from my fear of nobody loving me, not getting a boyfriend etc. It's just so frustrating.
I don't know how old you are (and I'm not asking) BUT I've found that the closer I've gotten to 40 (and I'm VERY close, lol) I don't really care what the "ideal" beauty is anymore.
Look, I'm a middle-aged woman who's basically shaped like a boy, not many curves so I've come to realize a long time ago that I will never be the curvy bombshell that men seem to equate with sexiness in this society. But so what? I have a decently lean athletic build that I'm kind of proud of at my advanced age, lol.
My hair is really fine so I'll never have long thick locks like the cover models so I choose to wear it chin-length so it looks thicker.
Try to see the positives in your appearance. I take really good care of myself (or at least try to, lol) and I have minimal wrinkles at my age. I'm also thankful that my hairstylist hasn't found tons of gray hair too.
You should be happy with what nature gave you but if not, maybe change it. That's solely up to you. I hope this helps.