Yesterday I just happen to tune in on Dr Phil's show and it was about weight issues! Something he said was very important for everyone to hear!
There was a lady that went on the show with her husband. She had gained 50 lbs since they got married and had kids. She had lost the weight before and just gained it back. He asked her why she wanted to lose the weight and she said " I want to be healthy" He asked her if she was really having health issues due to her weight. She was'nt huge but weighed around 175? I guessed. Then she said "I want to look like when I got married. Dr Phil asked her husband if he wanted her thinner the way she was and the husband hesitated but said he would like that . Dr. Phil then told her " You havent lost weight because you really dont want to and there are no consequences if you dont lose weight" She said but I do want to lose weight, I just dont have the willpower I guess. He told her "willpower" is not a long term thing. It's not permanent. He said " what would happen if you dont lose the weight? Will something be taken away from you?Would TV or a car be taken away? In other words If she did lose or stayed the same there would be no consequences inher life. She was healthy just uncomfortable with her weight. He said people need " Accountability" once you have to be accountable for your actions then and only then will you do something. And I was like AMEN! He used other words but thats more or less how I remembered it People tell me I have amazing willpower but its NOT true! I have cheated all the way, skipped exercise.But I would come to my senses and start again.I've eaten stuff that would make some of you cringe with fear lol . I think for me being accountable to someone else has been the best help Ive had.
It's embaressing to some of us to have our spouse weigh us. But its a good thing cause you cant lie then! I would never ever step on a scale in front of my husband until now. I would ask him toweigh me and I wouldnt peek at the scale.
So everyone reading this : DONT USE THE " I HAVE NO WILLPOWER" thing ! Willpower comes and goes. I hear people I know say all the time " I want to be thin, do you think I like being this weight?" Remember wants and needs are totally different. And we usually dont get what we want but we can always get what we need ...if we want it bad enough lol .
That's all folks !
Gen