I am 22, I've had a best friend since I was 10. We grew to be essentially sisters- we each lived with the others' family at some point, went on vacations together, spent most of out time with the other, etc. She bought me a car, we adopted cats together, I think we were as close as friends could be.
She recently got married (up until the wedding we were roomies) and ever since then she just... changed? Like a totally new person came and took the place of the friend I once knew almost better than myself.
We just grew apart, which I guess is normal, but it's still shocking, you know?
So I live across the county from my mother but she is still who I look to for advice- I email her regularly and told her the situation, how I felt, etc.
Blah, blah- My friend kept getting weirder and weirder and then
KAPOWWW!
She asked to meet me and told me she needed to confess that she hacked into my email account and had been reading them for over a year. She seemed to be VERY overly upset that I "talked about her behind her back" (to my mom- who I tell everything)
Obviously I was speechless and hurt and creeped out...
(I had some very personal stuff in my email account- LIFE LESSON: Change your passwords regularly)
I wrote her a letter explaining my feelings, I apologized that I had discussed our relationship with my mom (which I don't actually think was wrong since it was not ever nasty, just honest) and asked for some space- (it was a VERY polite, respectful and genuinely loving letter) she texted me, saying she was working on a "reply letter"
And...
I have not heard from her since.
It's been months now. My Birthday passed without a call, Thanksgiving is tomorrow...
I guess I just feel sad that those 10+ fun and fabulous years could be thrown away without a look back or even a "So long, good luck"?
Am I weird for feeling this way?
I've made myself some new friends and found new activities to take up the empty feeling (geez, this sounds like some terrible break up or something)
but I still miss my friend.
Does anyone have any suggestions for how to move on or what to do?