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Originally Posted by Botzz
Ok, a guys point of view here, He's a moron and acting like a 15 year old in high school with that attitude...I just took a look at your profile and going off of the picture that you have there, I don't know how to break this to ya but you are a hottie (I am happily married to my own hottie so its ok for me to say that ) and you wouldn't have an issue finding someone that would love ya unconditionally because what you wrote says that he has certain conditions for which you must fall under in order to get 100% from him. I recently looked at a picture of my wife from a time when she was heavier and thought "I do not remember her ever being that big" and its because I love her unconditionally, she is the love of my life no matter what the wrapper on the outside looks like.
He seems to be a hypocrite as well if he has put on 60 pounds since you met, sounds like the pot calling the kettle black and perhaps he is projecting some of his insecurities in your direction, try telling him that his little man is starting to look like a short stack of quarters behind the chub and watch the look on his face, then ask him how he liked that comment, and you say that "he had made it very clear that he loves me" how so? by belittling you? or making you feel the need to ask for opinions on a forum? or making you feel all warm inside when he says that you embarrass him? or or or or......
Jay makes some good points as well and one has nothing to do with the other because weight loss is not a part of a relationship in my humble opinion, the Jack in the box issue and the boyfriend are not the same problem BUT one of them can be and probably is effecting the other...when you don't feel good about yourself the trips to Jack in the box can and will get more frequent.
if I come off blunt thats just me
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I agree with what most everyone else has said.. but I like ^that^ because it's from a guys point of view!
I couldn't find ONE positive thing about him in what you wrote. IMHO, he doesn't deserve you. Who is he to set rules for how you have to be? Girl, the only person you should have to answer to is YOU. It sounds like he does plenty to bring you down, but nothing to help you. You've got to follow your heart and do whats right for you, but remember to listen to your head. You're smart and you know that you're trying.. but it will do you no good if the only person you're trying for is HIM.. try to remember, love is blind.
Just like some of the other girls said.. if it were me, I'd leave him and be HAPPY AS H*LL to do it.
I hope everything works out.. even if you do end up staying with him (as long as YOU are truly HAPPY)
You are BEAUTIFUL and you deserve to be treated like a QUEEN. You know we're here for you and support you!