I have been reading the other threads about doing this for external validation. I can relate. They REALLY got me thinking!
I must say, this time is very different for me. I am absolutely doing this for myself. I was sitting here thinking, I mean REALLY thinking about what I expect from others. What kind of validation am I looking for? Yeah, it would be nice to hear that I look good and that they (meaning family and friend) are proud of me, but that is not the sole reason. Yes, my reasons are very vain, just like I think most of ours are, but it's about me and all for ME. I wish I could tell you all how I came to this place, but I can't. What I do know is that one day while watching TV a Slim-fast commerical can on. Have seen those commericals over and over and over again. When all of sudden it hit me like a ton of bricks! That I would do this, for no other person or thing, but myself. It was truly a revelation. Once I got over the intial shock of being hit by a ton of bricks I felt a great weight being lifted off my shoulders and a sense of peace within myself.
I know I'm babbling, but am asking if there are any others that have felt this way?
I am very lucky in the way that my DH is very supportive and helpful. He never comments on my weight (good or bad), and he'd "get busy" every night if it were up to him. Whenever I feel low or down on myself he always has something nice to say. I wish all you ladies had this kind of support. It a wonderful thing. I do weigh more now than when we got married. But hey, I had 3 kids in less than 4 years , so even if did say thing, I'd have to give him the big smack down (hehe).
It's just so weird. I have always tried to diet for OTHER people, but had somehow convinced myself that I was doing for ME. But now that that is true, I can tell the difference. I feel as though there is no way I can fail this time. Oh, don't get me wrong, I've had a few set backs, but the only person I have to deal with, is myself and we all know that we're hardest on our selves.
I am so very grateful that I have found this site. You ladies are so supportive and although I've only been here a short time, I feel as though I'm really getting to know you all. I am here everyday, checking on everyone's progress and trying to give support and encouragement to others, as you have done for me.
So THANK YOU .