My husband has never said anything to me about my weight and has never acted like I embarassed him in any way. I am surprised to because his father is the type that says rude things and has said them to me in the past. I never said anything to him when he made rude comments, I would just go home and cry to my husband. My husband never heard his father say these comments but over the years he did talk to his father about the things he said, trying to get him to stop.
My new SIL is my build/weight and he said things to her at first but boy, she stands her ground and I have thanked her many times for it. She lets him know he is rude and what she thinks of his comments.
Since he stopped making these comments I have lost weight and now he compliments me on how good I look...I take his compliments with a grain of salt though.
I am very lucky that I have a husband who loves me for being me and I wish everyone had the same.