Forgiveness...
This was difficult for me to write here... but here goes... Lately, with professional guidance, I have been working on issues that are probably contributing to my overeating and rather serious cycles of binge/guilt/depression... Throughout this 'therapy' it was becoming clear that childhood bullying was STILL haunting me...... I'm almost 50, so admitting this was painful, but true... My counselor thought it would be helpful to journal about this... with emphysis on the actual names I was called and the names of the people who taunted, did I remember them, oh.. YOU betcha....
The next step the counselor asked me to take when I was done writing, was to forgive them... Yikes.. My first reaction to that idea was, "Do I really have to ? it was so long ago"... It was 'just' childhood banter. The insults and names crushed me on a daily basis, but must we blame everything on childhood ? Could this really be a blockage on my path to wellness ? Is it going to matter now, I'm 50 ? My couselor's only response was "well one way to find out is to try it".. And I did...
I actually put a lot of thought into how I was going to forgive them... it wasn't going to be in person, it would be in my heart, from my heart, with intent and with symbolic gesture.... So, by myself on a sunny day last week, I bought a couple of helium balloons, on them I wrote the hurtful names and the names of the children who had taunted me. I took them to the riverside, found a little private spot and with prayer, forgiveness and intent ... I let go of the balloons... I cried a bit, then laughed... Amazingly, when I got home and settled in on my couch I was overcome with relief... that pit deep deep down (that I didn't know I had) was gone........It was amazing...
Last edited by Sweetcaroline; 05-21-2008 at 06:46 PM.
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