I just wanted to add something about what GLORY AND HARPO said that I think is really important, and is the real reason why I answered this thread. I love my family, and I do not dwell on the nasty things people have said to me about my weight; but I think it is important to note how hurtful these kind of remarks are, and that THEY DO NOT MOTIVATE ME TO LOSE WEIGHT!
I know people that think this way: "If I say something nasty, they will wake up and go on a diet." More often, it had the opposite effect; becuz I was so hurt, I would eat more and go out less, becuz I felt so bad about myself. Those extremely negative comments just reinforced my insecurities about my weight. So, I have had to learn to ignore them, as the saying goes ...
It would have been more helpful if they had kindly said something like, "Is their anything that I can do to help you with that problem? Only doctors ever took that approach and I did not get mad at them; I was glad that they cared enuff to bring it up, and in a non-threatening way. Two of them said something like, "My records show that you have a gained some weight over the last while, can I help you with that? OR would you like to talk about it."
I agree with GLORY about that issue the most; that someone would care enuff to ask if they could help me in any way, or even just talk about it. Even just have someone to lend a CARING EAR would have been better than insulting us ... we need support and encouragement; we need our self-esteems boosted up; we need help to feel better about ourselves. It's nice to feel accepted and invited to functions; we need to feel wanted; and we need to be loved, just the way we are!!!
That will give us the strength we need to make better choices and to make the changes we need to get healthier, and that includes to work towards a healthier weight and lifestyle. I think that's what we all need and want! And KINDNESS is the easiest way to give someone LOVE ...
ROSEBUD