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Even if it is "too personal" for professional, I don't want to give him up. I want him to take me all the way to goal....
I hope this doesn't sound too harsh, but having worked as a trainer for six years, I think you are looking for a personal friend and he is providing a professional service. If you are concerned about conflicting information, you have right to question him on it. But keep in mind that what might have been "right" for you a few months ago may have changed because of your increasing fitness level, weight, etc.
Most of my clients are/were women, so that probably makes a big difference, however MY trainer was a man and I did have several male clients. Some banter is fine...but there definitely is a line. Many of my clients became good friends. Many of my clients regarded me a their therapist as well as their trainer...when you spend a lot of time with someone and you click, the confidences can flow. There were plenty of times that some of my clients were sitting in my office with the door closed sobbing. Hard physical work does make people emotional.
BUT...and here is the reality part: You are a paying client, he's not your best friend and if he's making a living as a trainer, you are one of many clients who all want his attention and time to some degree. If you are too demanding, either emotionally or time-wise, to preserve his business he has to pull back. If he's training full time, he's probably got clients scheduled every hour from 6am til 6 pm or later, with a few breaks in between. Do you expect him to stop in the middle of someone's session and text message you? How would you feel if you were the one whose session was being interrupted?
Again, I'm sorry if this sound offensive, but he is being paid to train you and help you along the journey...by the hour. Friendship outside the gym is a bonus if
both of you want it, but like any other friendship, it has to be mutually desired and rewarding.
Mel