I have to wonder though, would you have noticed or cared if you hadnt been making every effort to loose weight ?
It happens a lot in life as somebody above says, and i knew about it when i was fat and didnt care, but now that ive lost a good deal i DO care about it, however though im not focal or really obvious about it, i still do compare myself to others. The only people ive ever asked if they've had enough would be my kids lol

Sounds like you did the right thing with your friend. good on ya for sticking up for yourself. Just wait until you're smaller than her - you can do it right back ... maybe in a less mean way

I agree with some of the previous posts, I believe this has more to do with her food issues than with you. It's just that now you are working on eating healthier and it (as far as she can tell) just highlights her "bad" eating behaviors - whether real or perceived. Of course, this doesn't make her comments right, appropriate, or even useful but good for you for standing up to her and pointing out to her what she's doing.

Here's hoping you two can work through this and then no one has to be in the fat friend role <--- I'm against having this role in a relationship anyway.

I'm against the role as well, but I will be in the role until I lose enough weight to just be Aimee. Today I am ok with that. But watch out!