Myrtle, lol, cute name! My mom is a fertile myrtle and so is my sis and the rest of the women on both sides of my family, we actually call them that! LOL!
Ok, back to why I'm writing. I am not a fertile myrtle. I got prego a year after we married and lost it at 12 weeks and had to have a d & c. We spent years doing infertility treatments, taking Clomid, watching the calendar, checking temperature, etc. but never got pregnant again. Always a negative test, every month. I couldn't take it any more, feeling like a failure when it wasn't my fault. We always wanted to adopt and have our own. If we never have a biological one we don't care. We decided to adopt.
My dh and I are both obese, I hate that word. But we fostered newborns and toddlers and adopted 2 so far (both we got from birth) and fostered around 22 kids or 24? would have to check my list there are so many! Anyhoo, we are both healthy yet heavy. We didn't fake any numbers. Just had our doc send our info to them for the homestudy. I'm not sure where you are but in America, with so many kids in foster care and more coming in every day (I know, I get the calls for newborns all the time, I have two babies now too so you can only have 2 under 18 months at a time so we're full for them now) they can't afford to turn adoptive/foster parents down for being heavy! It's estimated that 75% of all Americans will be overweight by year 2012 or 2015. Who will adopt the kids then??
Don't worry. I know many others who are obese who adopted as well. My dh and I were both working full time professional jobs and I was going to school at night when we got our first ever call. It turned out to be our first child to adopt. His case took forever, you can't adopt til parental rights are terminated, which took 2.5 yrs. But we got him from the hospital at 5 lbs. and altho those years of waiting to make him legally ours was very scary (they would have let the grparents have him if they'd chosen that) we have no regrets. (We both gained weight bc of nerves, now that we have two kids, it's not as scary, at least we are parents, with the first one, we weren't parents yet and wanted to be so badly)
Then our daughter came as newborn too. Her case was only a year. They are mine when they are here tho, even if not legally. And right now I have a 2 wk old girl I got from the hospital and it's starting all over again, waiting to find out if her parents will do as the judge says, take their classes, get in and finish rehab, maintain a place to live, etc. (they can be poor but must have what they need.) If not, then it could go in our favor. Just a waiting game.
Good luck, I hope this helps some. Oh and I think my dh and I both weighed around 265-275 when we got approved. I'm glad I weigh less now bc I couldn't chase them all! Once they were placed with me, I knew I had to lose some to be able to do things for and with them.
It's great being a mom and worth all that we have to go thru to get our babies.
We want 4 or 5 kids. And maybe more when those are older. Please feel free to PM me if you have questions or if I can help.
Sincerely, Selina