I cut and pasted this over from my blog, I'd love some feedback on this problem.
Some of you already know exactly how I feel about my dil, this is another incedent that happened on Friday evening.
Im doing alright, still hanging in and staying pretty close to plan. Yesterday we were invited to dinner at my stepson and dil (the dil I like!) The other dil was there, and informed me as to what a neighbour said to her about my weight. Not just to me personally, but to me with everyone sitting around the table. Angry doesnt even describe how I felt. I couldnt get the **** out of there fast enough. I know its just her way of digging to make herself feel better. She does it every chance she gets. But it was still extremely hurtful, and I have no doubt in my mind she knew it, but was hiding behind the "neighbours" words.
Ive left this until today to post about, because yesterday, I would certainly have had to put a warning on the title.
What can I say, she reminded me how much I dislike her, and why. Now it is something that I need to let go of, before I let it sabotage all my efforts. Its tough, Im not one to let things go easily, tend to let them fester. I can promise tho that I will never forget!
If anyone has some clever words for next time.....because there will be a next time....no doubt, let me hear them. I'll be good........but only to a point. I hold my tongue because it is my husbands' son's wife......I keep the peace for that reason only. But Id still like to lay it on her in a nice way, that leaves absolutely no question as to how I feel about something she has just said. Im much more like my dad....when I get angry, stuff comes out uncensored, or I dont say anything at all. See my problem?
Anything you might have to offer would certainly be of help. Im over the intense hurt it caused, but Im still quite angry with her. .....yes I know its wasted emotion, and she isnt worth it. But....Im trying