Hi ladies! I was here almost a year ago, I think? I lost 40 lb on WW, but "found" most of it once I got lazy and went off program.

I'm going back to meetings this week. Evidently I need the accountability. So I'm coming back here too.

Starting - approx 170? (Edited to add, initial WI 166.5) Goal - 135. I should be able to do it by my anniversary in May, so that's the target, is to be on maintenance by then.

Challenges: it's been much harder since my husband got out of the military and moved home with me. He's very much more into meals than I am, and heavier kinds of food. Also I have some dietary restrictions.

I can do this. I know I can. Nothing to it but to do it. (See the positive self-talk in action?)

Welcome back Freeda!

You can do it!

Freeda -- You can do this and the help here is wonderful!!!

Welcome Freeda. Oh how I know the ride of the weight loss roller coaster. In Januray of 1991 I was at 250 and did a program called Form-U-3. It was much like WW. I got down to 160 and while still on the program I got pregnant. Doctor told me to eat...well give a murder a liscense to kill why don't you. That was all the permission I needed. By 1999 I was back up to 250. At that time I was going thru a divorce and the weight was falling off me. I got down to 190 in now time. I moved to VA, met Larry, got married, and was found to have fibromyalgia as well some other ailments. In 6 years time I gained 100 pounds. I started this journey at 294.

What is different this time?? I am not looking as this as a diet. When I loss the weight I am not done with WW. I will be forever on the program. It isn't a diet it is a lifestyle change. I have set my ultimate goal lower than any weight I can recall being. I have broke that down into little goals. This way I don't have to look at the big picture. So far so good.

Wishing you well on this journey.

I appreciate the welcome.

And welcome back from me as well Freeda. We all have our day when it's kind of a "day of reckoning" and we just finally recognize what we have become and realize it's time to start being a better person, both physically and mentally.
I commend you for coming back. Why don't you post some of the meals that your husband wants, and maybe we can help you lighten them up a bit?
I, often, do two different versions of the same meal at times. If my husband wants hamburgers, for example, I skip the cheese and the roll. I have oven fries (I found a frozen brand called something like Alexia) that are two points per serving and have those with a 5 point lean hamburger patty. I then have a nice salad (and big one!) alongside both our meals. He eats the cheese and the roll and I make his hamburger a bit larger than mine. We both eat the oven fries and salad, he gets "regular" dressing and I sue fat free. I save probably about 5 points on that type of meal.
Truly, I don't know how he can eat all he does without gaining weight, but he can. He's lucky, he has a totally different metabolism that my own.
When we have baked potato, I have FF sour cream or lite margarine on mine and he heaps butter over his. Must be nice. I allow myself butter on special occasions, only.
My WW frozen desserts are a Godsend when he eats Ben and Jerrys and Hagen daz premium stuff, and eats it out of the container. I look longingly at this stuff when he is eating it, but try to stay in control.
It's very hard having a person sabotage your efforts and I live with it every day. Sometimes, I lose control and give in, and other times I do OK.
Losing weight is the hardest thing I have ever tried to do in my entire life.
Linda

Linda
I can so relate to what you said. DH is a diabetic and should be eating much better than he is. I have been cooking healthier. I have been cooking with ground turkey instead of ground beef. We eat a lot of chicken. So the meals aren't the problem.

DH doesn't eat all day. He says if he eats while working (he is a mechanic), he will get sick. So he eats from the time he gets home till the time he goes to bed. I had stopped buying all the junky stuff. DH got upset. He wanted his candy, cookies, ice cream, and chips. So there he is sit at the other end of the couch eating all the foods that I miss and can't have. I guess I shouldn't say can't have since you can eat anything you want as long as you have the points. But the problem is if you spend the points eating that stuff you will be hungry real soon.

Dh has been off his medications for over a year now. (a result of no money and no programs for those who have insurance and can't afford her co-pays. Thank goodness, for Walmart's $4 generics) As off last week he is back on them all and seeing the doctor and I am hoping he will realize he needs to eat better...for his health and my drooling.

Wow, I hate to say this to you, but a diabetic who is eating like that is really asking for big trouble. He just HAS to know this. I'd get myself to the library and take out whatever books on diet and diabetes that I could find.
Sounds like he is in denial.
I'd plan to distance myself from his uncontrolled eating as best I can. I'd plan low point or no point (veggies) snacks for the times when he is eating like that.
Gosh, I think living with an ice creamaholic is bad, but that is just awful. To top it off his condition is not one to fool around with.
Is he close to parents or a sibling, I'm wondering if you could have a chat with them and beg them to try talking with him.
Keep posting and let us know more.
Linda

Linda

I have been in the medical profession most of my adult life. I used to work for kidney specialist. Most of our patients had diabetes and/or high blood pressure. (DH has both). Not a day goes by that I don't say something to him about his diabetes. His mom, dad, and one of his sisters has diabetes. (In the case of his dad it is was...he is deceased). He has watched his mother deny it for years. At this point he doesn't have much contact with his family (long story). I do believe he is in denial. When the doctor told him he needed to go to diabetic education classes his response was my wife knows all about that stuff. I have asked him many times to go. He uses one excuse or another. I have even made he appointment for him and he won't go. Using one excuse or another. I don't know what more I can do.

Oh Chris. I'm so sorry.

For us, it's more along the lines of "he's hungry when he comes home so THAT is dinnertime, not when I get hungry." He's helped me with WW before and we're used to making separate dishes because he loves cheese and I can't have dairy.

Some of it is as simple as he likes meat and potatoes, but I'm happy eating soup for dinner. He works very very hard and physically during the day while I sit at a desk, so he requires a lot of fuel.

That, and he eats dessert EVERY night. Some cookies, or ice cream, or chips and salsa... I'm trying to get him to eat breakfasts more often, and I pack or bring him lunches to work, because otherwise he'd only eat in the evening! I don't think he realizes how much fuel he really needs. Between this, his thyroid, his apnea, and some *undisclosed other issues*, I guess he is a *little* high maintenance. haha

I've been eating 2 point mint fudgie bar things in the evening while he eats his treat, and that's helping. And adding more veggies to our meals is never a bad thing! We already do things like serve my dinner on smaller plates, etc.

If you can't afford the doctor and medication but can afford junk food, your priorities need to get straightened out. I don't buy that stuff for my husband, he has to get it and store it out of my sight...and he needs to gain weight (147 and 6 feet, health problems).

I am leaving this posting. I am tired of people thinking they know what is best. I guess I just share to much of my self and then end up very hurt when someone thinks they know what is best for me

I'm not sure who this was directed towards... The only person one can control is ones-self. If someone's husband is self-destructive, it can be hard to not only influence him to make better decisions, but to keep him from dragging you down with him.

If only life were always as simple as people think!

Wow, whatever happened with Chris, I'm really sorry. I thought we were tying to be helpful. I hope you come back and we can still work together on what you can do for yourself. If you don't want to speak about your husband, no big deal.
Take care of yourself and I hope I was not at fault somehow sweetie!
Linda