Good Morning LWL! Not Sunny here today- it's pouring and has been for several days.
I spent the weekend doing heavy duty yardwork, lots of cardio, eating super clean, and have been rewarded with 2 extra pounds on the scale Life's not fair!
Also bought a much needed new mattress and am hoping that it will solve some of my sleep problems. Haha! If only it were so easy.

Today is legs day, school conference day (ick), then wait for the matttress guys who hopefully will arrive between downpours!

Have a good one,
Mel

Aww poor Mel - that sucks!

I've been eating well all weekend, within calories if not perhaps "super"-clean, but better than the usual weekend-fest!

I'm kickboxing tonight, probably not actually doing a lot, since we have belt gradings coming up and tonight's my teaching night, so I get to shout at people!

I'll be back at the gym tomorrow, shoulders and abs methinks.

Here's to a good week

Good morning to all, from watery Massachusetts, we are still getting lots of water here and more on the way. Blah. Lucky that I am in the city with great drainage.

This weekend was totally about me, NH Wool and SHeep show, 2 new projects for me, and then Mother's Day at my BIL's. Actually stayed pretty much on track over all.

Got to the gym this morning and am determined to lose some of my gut. I know that this involves lots of cardio and all clean eating. My belly is just plain in the way. Blah, anyway, did the elliptial and the bike this morning. Then some upper body work, nothing too strenous, more like a wandering around the room with some weights. Maybe a quick workout at home with DD who is under the weather, or it could have been all the running around we did this weekend.

MEL - Pleasant dreams on the new mattress. Ignore the two pounds.

I've been eating clean as well - and stayed the same this week. I think I'm gaining some muscle (can see a bit more definition) so I'm not complaining!

Mel, Those two pounds are probably just water - ignore them - they'll wooooshh away. Did you drink enough while you were doing the chores?

My doctor told me that the mysterious rash was 'heat' rash - well, we've had three very cool and wet days and its still here in all its bright pink glory! I was hoping to go swimming but I don't think they'd even let me in the pool with this rash.

Did I mention that I dropped a 15k (33lb) dumbbell on my foot - I didn't break anything but it has turned some amazing colours - so I'm not walking as much as I normally do because it hurts to wear a shoe on that foot.

On the plus side, I managed to lose an inch of my waist and another off my hips this week!

Hi LWL,

Mel - good luck with the matress!
Sarah Ann -Ouch !

Today is reasonable sofar...I did not hit anything with the car, dropped a cup of tomatosoup in the canteen, but did not hit anyone with it & spilt most of it on the tray...The stress is taking its toll.

On the good side: I have now managed to shove all stressors to other people, so I now only have to study XH s papaerwork to prepare for a meeting with my lawyer tomorrow.

And I did manage to get my yoga in yesterday!!

I am surviving this.
Have a great day all,
rabbit

Rabbit - I was in the same situation many years ago and you have my total sympathy. Just take it one day and one task at a time. There is an end to it and you will survive even though it probably doesn't feel like it right now. Over here in the UK it is possible for women who are being harrassed by their XH's to get a Court Order restraining the XH from contacting them - they have to go via lawyers - is that the same in the US? If XH's ignore the Court Orders then the Police can arrest them.

Morning all! I'm almost ashamed to mention that we glorious weather this weekend! :lol It was warm and sunny both days. The result is that we got lots of outside stuff done. Windows are washed, and screens on. Gutters are cleaned. Deck is washed and "furnished" for the summer. Clothesline is up for the season, and the greenhouse is planted. A good weekend.

Finished up week 2 of our little BFL challenge. Weight is exactly the same. I have exercised 11 out of 14 days and eaten clean about 90% of the time. I need to find a tape measure, since that may be the best way to see something happening. I was showing DH my biceps, and he said while he didn't see them, he could feel them, but my shoulders were looking really good. Think I'll keep him.

Sarah, OUCH! Hope your foot is feeling better. Oh, and Rabbit is in the Netherlands. Don't know what the restraining order situation is there.

Rabbit - to you. Glad you've pushed your stressors off on everyone else.

Mel - you probably soaked up 2 lbs of water from all the rain.

Liza - what do you do with the wool??? Curious crafting minds want to know.

One of my employees 17 year old son was in a kid-only accident this weekend. He and 2 friends were operating a catapault/slingshot type thingy and it got twisted and ended up flinging a fist-sized rock back at him. He was hit in the right side of his face, and has several broken facial bones, a big split in his lip, plus is missing several teeth. It missed his eye, though it's full of blood so they're watching it. Oh, and he broke his wrist when he fell. You think when they get to that age they're fairly safe. What a way to spend mother's day!

Uh-uh! That's when it gets really dangerous!

Pat- Congrats on your shoulders and biceps. I find at this point I have to eat 99% to see anything on the scale (other than upward motion ) Enjoy your glorious weather.

Liza- Are you drowning? I keep seeing torrents on the news.

Sarah Ann- Rabbit is in the Netherlands.

Mattress is NOT here yet...tap, tap, tap. The good news is that the rain has stopped. The bad news is that the matttress is NOT HERE!

I came home from the gym to wait for the mattress delivery and witnessed a horrible traffic accident about 200 feet in front of me. I'm pretty sure there was at least one fatality. The car behind me was a volunteer fireman who took over, and shooed everyone away. It's really been haunting me all afternoon. It was right at a spot where my dd had a minor fender bender when she first started driving.

Mel

Oh Mel, that's sooo scary. Glad to hear there was some one there who knew what to do.

I'm thinking I do need to move to a higher percent of "clean" - sigh. As I've discussed before, I just can't force this old body to more often/intense cardio. I have moved up to "almost every day" and once I get the bike out that'll be no problem I think. Today it's barely 40 and very overcast. We could use the rain, but it makes outdoors exercise less appealing. I know - I'm a wimp.

hi LWL,

Thanks for the support everyone! I just came back from a 3 hour session with my lawyer. Financially this is going to be a wash-out is my estimation. But I do hope we will get a good ruling on the visiting situation for the kids. Tomorrow we go to court. I am taking it 1 day at a time, and I'm doing fairly well. At least I am ending my relation with XH. Before the end of the year I can be through with XH. My lawyer ( and my sisters) think that XH may also be acting this way because he cannot stand it that we can manage easily without him. Could be, but i for one only want to get rid of him fast.

Have a great day all,
Rabbit (no excercise sofar, the best i can do is get in my yoga and meditation)

Woo hoo!! The weather is beautiful, my rash has nearly gone and my foot is reasonable okay this morning (still bruised but not as painful). Things are looking up! I did a really good LBWO followed by abs then after brekkie I went on a 12 mile walk with my dogs. Right now my legs are really letting me know that they had a work out. Feeling GOOD!

Sounds like you're having a happy day Sarah

Hi LWL,

Tomorrow I go to court. I have no confidence in the proceedings, I think I will loose on all counts, and that XH will force the visiting issue including accepting NL. I am scared.

Regardless of the outcome, I will come out as the winner. I win because this is the first step in getting XH out of my life. I win because whatever the ruling of the judge, the realistic period for this visiting issue is 2 year for DS and 4 yrs for DD, and then they also will be free to decide on their own if they want to continue contacts with XH. I win because with a judges ruling, I will not be pestered again and again about going into mediation. We ( myself, DS and DD) win because XH is out of the house, and is not contstantly criticising anymore. We win because we now have a much easier life.

I have done everything possible to prevent XH from forcing the kids to meet and accept his new relation. Tomorrow I hope the judge will want to hear their opinion. It is now all out of my hands.

On the plus side: my 2 sisters wil be there as well, and afterwards we're going to have lunch somewhere in the old city. It is a medieval town centre, and I like going there.

Rabbit

Rabbit. Let's hope that the judge is reasonable and will listen to your children. They are certainly old enough to have an opinion on the subject. Meanwhile, I'm glad to hear that you are stessing the positive aspects of this situation. Staying calm and in control is very helpful.

Good luck Rabbit. Relationship breakups are miserable and they are even worse when kids are involved. I hope your children get the opportunity to have their views heard and taken seriously. I have absolutely no idea why XH's think its okay to try and force kids to do something they don't want to do. My daughter used to vomit each time she had to visit her father and the time he wanted her to be his bridesmaid with his new wife she was so violently ill that she spent a night in hospital - but he still insisted that she go visit. Luckily now, in the UK, children are listened to more.

As you say, this is one more BIG step for getting your XH out of your life. I don't know what the big deal is about mediation, especially when one of the parties is obviously unwilling. I've never yet met anyone who it worked for properly.

I just hope that it all goes your way and that your XH accepts the judges ruling.