Okay, so being healthy and all...yada, yada, yada. I'm not that idealistic, but for those of you who are...awesome. But as for me, I have my reasons, ranked in order.

1. I want a family...a big family! That takes a husband, whom I would have to go out and meet. I don't know if it's just me, but it seems like there are a lot more single women than there are single men...is that possible? Well anyways, I have a lot of competition out there in "the field", competition that is skinnier, financially secure, independent, and doesn't have any children. Just being a single mom puts me at a disadvantage...being fat on top of it, well that's more like a crippling disadvantage.

2. I want to wear clothes that are made for people my age. Sure, some of the Layne Bryant clothes are okay, but they're expensive...and frankly, I want to put a bag over my head just to walk in there. What have I done to myself that has put me in the position of having to shop in a "specialty" clothing store. It's one thing when you're pregnant and have to shop in a maternity store, that's cute, and even fun. But a store where all of the pants are made from a stretchy material...that's just WRONG! And who's idea was that anyway? What woman who has a tummy pouch wants pants with a little "give" so her stomach can feel free to poof out a bit? C'mon jeans, stay firm and hold that sucker in!

3. I want to go out to a restraunt and eat from the "lite" menu without the waitress assuming I'm on a diet. I mean, can't a girl just eat light without becoming a cliche?

4. I want to wear a shirt that goes up to my waist without worrying about my gut hanging out underneath.

5. I want a guy to hold the door open for me too, not just the skinny girl in front of me.

6. I don't want to be the only fat girl in my gym (believe it or not, right now I am).

7. I don't want to be a stereotype. I already have to deal with the "single mom" stereotype, please GOD don't let me have to carry the "fat girl" stereotype as well!

8. I don't want the seatbelt in the car to ever poke into my side again.

9. I want to wear a bathing suit without a skirt around the bottom.

10. I don't want to have to wash my skinfolds a few times a day to keep from getting a rash (yuck, I know).

11. I want to go to a bar and get hit on by a guy MY OWN AGE, rather than the 40 year olds and guys that are too drunk to care.

12. I want to play with Jobe more.

13. I want to like myself more.

14. I want to wear pretty underwear again.

15. Never again do I want to feel guilty for eating when I am truly hungry!

16. I want to have energy again.


The most important thing to me though is that I want to have more children...soon. I know, I'm putting the cart before the horese, but I don't want Jobe to be 12 years old when his first little brother/sister is born. I was raised an only child (with a 1/2 brother in federal prison) and I remember how lonely it was. I want 7 kids, a lot I know...but it's what I want in life. I don't care about having expensive things, or a rewarding career outside of the home. I want to be a homemaker, and a homeschooling mom. So yeah, I need to lose this weight...I'll do anything!

About #1 there are more women on earth then men so it is not only possible it is a fact. I think it is a great list. I think everyone should have one frankly it makes losing weight real.

That's a great list Amanda, and if it's ok, I am going to join in with you:

1. I don't want the person that I can't stand the most in the world to be. . .ME!

2. Even though I am engaged, I want to turn heads.

3. I want to go into ANY store I feel like (including Charlotte Russe, Wet Seal etc.) and be able to wear what I think is cute and not just what fits!

4. I don't want to feel like the fattest person in the room. . .EVER!

5. I want to buy a bathing suit that looks good and that wasn't preceeded by crying in the dressing room.

6. I don't want to ever cry in the dressing room ever ever ever again (unless I am crying because I think I look so damn hot it brings me to happy tears).

7. I want people to look at me and think "Wow, she must workout".

8. I don't want to try and hide my out of breathness after walking up the stairs when I get to class.

9. I don't want to look at pretty thin women and kinda hate them just because of that!

10. I want to be confident naked!

11. I don't want to feel self conscious of what people are thinking when I tell them I am a certified personal trainer!

12. I want to train at a gym again and walk in confidently every day knowing that I am a good example.

13. I want to feel like it's ok to switch my major to nutrition and exercise science with out feeling judged.

14. I don't want the way I look to ever be a factor in my mind when I decided whether or not to do something!

KittieKat - Okay then...so I'm not just being paranoid

Stephanie - I like your list, and agree with you on many of your points. You go girl!!!

Amanda: I'm loving 3, 6 & 14 too!
LockItUp: I like your 7 & 8!

I love it! I can think of hundreds of reasons, but the first few are...

1. I want a man. And I don't want to settle for one that I don't really want because fat girls have to take what they can get. And I want him to be able to pick me up and carry me around like its no big deal...

2. I want to wear whatever I want. Swimsuits, dresses, short shorts and skirts. And tank tops! Little thin strapped, cute camisole looking tank tops.

3. I want the "skinny" clothes in my closet to be too big. Because even when I was "skinnier", I was not skinny.

4. I want enough self-confidence to do anything. If I believe in myself, maybe I will finally have the confidence to move forward in my career, and my life.

5. I don't ever want to hear "oh, you'd be really pretty if you lost weight" EVER AGAIN. And I don't ever want to think it again!

6. I don't want to be the fat sister! Or the fat daughter! Or granddaughter, or whatever.

7. I don't ever want to wear scary-stomach-holding-in underwear or those stupid pantyhose-short thingies that make your thighs look thinner, but really just moves the fat to odd places for the time being...

8. I love spending time on this website, but I'd much rather be spending my nights and free time out and about, mingling with hotties (hehe) and meeting the man described in #1...

9. I want to work out in spandex because it looks good, not because it keeps my thighs from touching.

10. I'm tired of my butt being my enemy... I want us to be friends

Ahhh... so good to write some of the reasons down! I could keep going, but they would get even sillier, I'm afraid...

Have a good night, everyone!
ab

Why I want to lose weight! I remember a time when i was the skinny good looking chick! noticed all the time!!!!!!!! and I want to be ripped, strong and damn fine again!!!!!!!!!!
My friends used to envy me, the guys used to perv, and I used to get wolf whistled at walking up the street, then I look in the mirror and say "what happened"!!

When you are noticed and people comment a lot! you feel so damn good about yourself, I think it made up for my lack of esteem and confidence. Now i would do just about anything to get it all back!

Heheehee - I made be a fat chick, but my husband has always been able to lift me up and swing me around - you just have to get yourself a beefcake hubbie like mine!

I just had to pop in here and post you are a woman on a mission now go out and do. I believe you will the best to you

Down with the fat! down with the fat!

hehe

my list - since I was bad and had mainly sugar today for foods (we raided a vending machine) (not chocolate - mostly starbursts/skittles - oh wait there were junior mints

1) GET a man. like people have been commenting. What is odd - is I had a hottie once (I was like 10 pounds lighter) but still not thin, so what is holding me back now? I feel like after I lost him, he was like the hoax? not mistake - what is the word I am searching for. But now I want to get back into the game. And somehow I feel like I am holding myself back, because of this (in part).

2) someone mentioned not hating skinny girls just cause they are skinny - I think that is great.

3) also- with the fashion - I have always appreciated it, i would love to wear it. See me on a runway! haha. but seriously - to be fashionable would be so nice - I may actually start to care what I look like when I go out in public.

4) look like I really worked out all the time so I didn't have to proclaim it.

5) feel healthier about my self image/comfort level.

6) not be the fat aunt (she is still too young to notice, must not let it influence her).

7) be a wild girl that gets noticed and appreciated for being the hot wild girl.

8) not continue hating how I look most of the time (i have good days)

9) when I am a famous director I don't want to be a fat one (like peter jackson or coppola) plus I gots to get all the hot actors attn

10) not feel guilty about spurlging once in a while on good food right after.

11) not feel like a giant with my best friend who is 5'2 and like 85-90 pounds. (how many of her am I!!!)

ok that is enough for now!

night all

I am a single mother as well, and have 100lbs to lose. i have been on weight watchers for 3 weeks, and have lost 10lbs. i feel exactly the same way you do, about everything. I miss pretty underwear. I miss being hit on, or even looked at in a positive way for that matter. my daughter is 16, but i would love more children. I agree about the competition, and right now I am not competition. i can't wait to be back in the game. I hope to hear from you soon!
Sarah

WOW! Part of me doesn't want to add on to this forum, because everyone already listed everything! But, I will do it anyway. They are in no particular order, just as they came to me.

1. I want to be able to use less insulin

2. I want everyone to see this CUTE hourglass figure that is hiding under fat

3. I want men my own age to look at me, pay attention to me and say DAMN! (in a good way)

4. I want my butt to be bigger...as soon as I get rid of this back fat, it should be more visible.

5. I want to fit into a size 12...I'm not trying to be thin or skinny, but a 12 would look good on me.

6. I don't want to worry about if I'm being paid less because I'm fat.

7. Can I have a CUTE bra?!?! REALLY! Not one of those things my grandmother wouldnt even want to wear.

8. I want a man to think that something good about my body, not just my cute face and big boobs

9. I want a man! Where are they? I worry about some of those men who ONLY like big and really big girls...some of them seem to have...shall I say, issues of control.

10. I want some serious definition in my arms and legs...I like my thighs thick, but I want it to be more from muscle and not whats there now.

11. I don't want to avoid taking pictures in certain positions because it might make me look fatter.

12. I want some female to see me is serious competition. I was never competition in school because even though I'm cute, i'm also fat, so there goes Missie out of the game. DAMN!

13. I want to be the best looking person in the picture...unless I'm next to my mama, cause I can't/won't top her...that's my mama

14. I want to feel good naked. You know I have not been naked in front of anyone?!? I am 23, but I don't think my body looks good outside of clothes.

Dang, my list is getting really long. Okay, last one...

15. I want to walk up a flight of stairs...run for the train or bus...and not be winded

Ok I was feeling a bit down and a selfpity party like Im the only one feeling this blah, blah blah..Im glad I read this thread! All your reasons are mine too! Well except for two more:

airplane seats!

Disney rides!

so thanks for the motivation everyone