Hi Paula and welcome! You and I need to have a little talk about you being so apologetic! You are NOT a wimp and there is nothing at all wrong with your workout! Every one of us here had to start somewhere and that is right where you are. You should never compare yourself to anyone else when you lift weights — you are only competing against yourself. And a good way to get hurt is to try to lift more than you can with handle perfect form. So relax — you are doing great!
I think you can have terrific workouts with just dumbbells. As you progress, you will need to go up in weight but you are right where you should be for now. I’ve always said that with so many of those leg exercises — like squats and lunges — it’s not the weight but just the movement that kills me.
There’s nothing wrong with being sore. I’ve learned to love the soreness that I get after a great workout because it means I’ve done something good for myself. I even feel cheated if I am not sore the next day. (Warning: you could be even more sore the second day!) I know that some folks take something for muscle soreness but I never have so can’t help (hopefully someone will chime in here). And keep in mind that you will be the most sore when you try a new exercise for the first time.
That being said, the conventional wisdom is to wait at least 48 hours before you work out a muscle group again so it can rest and recuperate. If you are still quite sore, I would wait three days. Most of us are on a training “split” of one kind or another, which means that we split up our sessions according to body part or parts. For example, I do each body part once a week but I do an hour for each:
Monday — back
Tuesday — shoulders
Wednesday — legs
Thursday — arms
Friday — chest
So there is a week for each body part to rest before I work it again. Others combine body parts, like back and bi’s one day, chest and tri’s another etc. There’s no right or wrong to this. Something like this might be easier for you than just alternating upper and lower body workouts. Or if you feel comfortable doing it that way, perhaps try upper body, lower body, rest day, then repeat.
I’ve found that cardio — especially bike riding — right after a leg workout and the next day paradoxically helps with the muscle soreness.
Good luck with your new program! I’m sure you are going to love your results, both in speeding up your weight loss and in changing and firming your body. Please join us in posting on the main thread because, Paula, you too are now a Lady Who Lifts!
Meg