like it's not going to happen for you?
Or it's not going to happen until you're much older and so your 20's, 30's and 40's will be spent fat/obese?
Or that you might lose it and gain it all back? (My worst fear, as I lost 60 lbs and gained it all back plus some.)

I've been feeling down lately. Trying to pick myself back up, get some exercise, eat right and work towards losing some weight but I have to say, after so many attempts, I often feel like it's never going to happen for me or I'm going to need like 10 years of cognitive behavioral therapy and some weight loss surgery before I'll ever be a normal weight.

Feeling sad today. Going to see a dietician about my heartburn problems and I'm going to ask about help with binge eating disorders, because I definitely believe that's my problem and I need to work out somehow. I know how to lose the weight, I just don't know how to keep doing it.

Yes, I have! Those negative thoughts only prolonged my goal because I figured I was NEVER going to lose any weight. You can do it.

pretty sure its just not in my genes

Aww, thanks for the hug. /sigh

I'm actually feeling better. I work in a hospital and today is World Diabetes day so they had this cool scale that tells you your muscle mass, BMI, lean body mass and your basal metabolic kcals. They give you a printout to take with you and so mine says 1,600 kcals is what my body burns resting. I think I'm going to start a goal of exercising 30-60 minutes 3 days per week. Exercise really makes a difference in my mood, but I have to get myself to do it. It's winter now so I'll have to get creative, but I think tonight after work I'll just walk around the mall for 45 minutes with my headphones on and do some window shopping.

It's a warm place to walk and it's free! There's also stairs so I can make a point to go up them a few times during my walk.

Right by my house too! I guess I need to keep my chin up and see the good side of things, and how there are so many little ways to work in exercise and good food.

Thanks again Novangel.

I know what you mean Southern.

I sometimes hear people say things like 'some overweight people are born to be overweight' but I think that just can't be true. Yes, some people will never do anything about it but they definitely could, they just don't.

You know how the saying goes: If you think you can't, you're right. If you think you can, you're also right. There is no objective reason why you can't lose the weight and keep it off. You just need to believe it. The key is to keep experimenting until you find a regimen that's comfortable enough to maintain for the rest of your life. If that means a slower rate of weight loss, nothing wrong with that. Also key is to find pleasurable activities to REPLACE binge eating.

F.

You will get to your goal, It is a hard long hard road. But in the end you will feel so proud and happy that you achieved your goal! Just push all of those negative thoughts aside or use them to fuel your workout! Stay positive!

Lol, well I love taking baths and when I'm in there I feel like I could stay there forever but sometimes binges occur when there's no chance I could get into a bath, haha.

I think I should be on the hunt for other things to be better than binging! I love to draw...I might start carrying a tiny sketchpad and when I feel like overeating pull it out and start drawing whatever I see until the cravings go away.

It actually sounds like a nice idea. I'll try that the next couple days!

I'm feeling much much better.

Generally I agree with this however I think in many cases true binge behavior is not a simple matter of will power. Many binge eaters were victims of abuse and whether physical or mental they might not be so easy to overcome.

OP if you're a victim of abuse you might be well served to look into some counseling as well.

Just remember this is entirely a mental game. If you are not convinced that this is entirely doable for you, it's a bit of a self fulfilling prophecy. There is NO reason you cannot improve your health in small ways, and those small ways accumulate to BIG losses. It might seem slow and like it's never going to happen, but it WILL.

My own weight loss has been slow, and it includes months of no losses or hanging on by the skin of my teeth, as well as months of speedy losses and dietary ease. But if I hadn't been convinced this was my ONLY choice when I first began, and that there was NO quitting and NO ending, you know where I'd be? At least 260 pounds, probably heavier, and still lamenting my lack of losses because I didn't even care about myself or my family enough to TRY.

Once you dedicate yourself to the pursuit, it's just a matter of finding your way. That may involve lots of time and tweaks, as it has for me, but it IS only a matter of time. Because if you don't give up, you can't fail. Keep working at it and you will be better for it. Never even try and you're guaranteed to get the outcome you fear most - no progress at all.

See? It's all in the attitude

I agree with what Arctic Momma said. My loss has been slow too, and getting slower. My hormones are all messed up (I'm 46) and I'm sure that's what is slowing things down. I just have to believe that the good eating and the working out are eventually going to pay off.

That is going up on my fridge tonight.

I thought that it was IMPOSSIBLE for me to become a normal weight without surgery. I started trying to lose weight for the first time at 38 years old. 2 years later I sit here weighing 117 pounds.

YOU CAN DO THIS!

You are a true inspiration!!! WOW!!

Wow, I have seen you around the runner forum but never looked at your before/after pics. Holy weightloss you're amazing, and here I am thinking I can't get to 140p. I am humbled.

You have all been so helpful!
This morning I woke up and did yoga! I forget how amazing yoga makes me feel. I also took a bath and then went out to walk the mall, though I ended up spending money when I wasn't supposed to, haha. I will leave my card at home tomorrow when I go walking.

I am eating well too. I am very inspired by everyone here on 3FC. I will be seeing a dietician and requesting to meet with someone for some therapy. I have had a rough past and there are a lot of things I would like to get off my chest to someone, and maybe telling it will really help me move forward towards a healthier me.

Winter is coming fast here, we already have snow and it's been cold. I have some good winter gear though so it's not impossible for me to go for a walk around my neighborhood. I'm feeling alright, but the next 6 or so months are going to really be a test to see if I can push through. Thanks again everyone.