Whiny Vent, but I just have to get it out.

  • I realize that I am small for my height. You know what? I'd like to stay that way. It helps me get jobs as a dancer, and I'm happy at this size.

    I am SO tired of my in-laws trying to push food on me. I'm currently on a trip with them, in Lake Powell. MIL insisted on cooking every meal- in not allowed to be in charge of anything, and she doesn't want any help. So,bmaybe it's rude- but I brought my own snacks (brought enough to share- but I already know what DH is going to be the only one who even looks at my fruit or veggies).

    Today on the menu:
    Breakfast: Cream-cheese stuffed French toast with caramel
    Sauce and bacon
    Lunch: Chili Dogs and Chips
    Dinner: cheese-stuffed meatballs, funeral potatoes, and brown-sugar carrots.

    It's food like this-every day- for 7 days.

    Now, I have been on trips like this with them before. I knew this was coming. So- I made a plan. I would take small portions of whatever it was that everyone else was eating, and then have some of my own snacks like fruits and veggies for some bulk in-between. I assumed that was a good solution that everyone could live with- but the family won't stop the stupid comments-
    "are you really only eating one slice d French toast?"
    "you're already so skinny, cheese on your hamburger won't hurt"
    "this cake is my best recipie"...

    It goes on and on... Three days down and three to go- I'm
    Getting really annoyed.

    I'm also annoyed because FIL and MIL have both been advised to get gastric bypass by their doctors, FIL is pre-diabetic and just had major surgery to remove part of his small intestine and liver. They always complain about Health issues- but when it comes down to it they don't do anything about it.

    Am I crazy to be so annoyed? Maybe I've just had too much family time and am on edge... Thanks for listening for anyone who made it!!
  • Oh my gosh, I don't even know what I would do! I've been "following" you in Chicks in Control and I gotta say I'm really impressed.

    I would be annoyed too, the obvious answer is not polite of course ("I'm thin because I watch what I eat"). They are probably trying to show love and generosity, since most cultures have some stereotype of the "feeder grandma" or whatever - however if they're both 300+ pounds like it sounds, how could they expect you to look at them and eat what they eat?

    It's not rude AT ALL to bring your own snacks btw. You're an adult who needs nutrients to live!
  • If I were you, I would have bought food for my meals on day 1. I do not tolerate Food Pushers that feel the need to smother you with food. They should respect your choices and what you want to fuel your body with.

    GL Op!
  • Oh I feel better already to hear that I'm not crazy!!

    Krampus- thanks! Its been hard not to binge with all the mountains of food around, but it's kind of been motivating to feel like everyone is watching what I eat and I want to prove to them that I can keep up my healthy habits and kind of show them that food doesn't own me... So I guess its helpful and hurtful to be here as far as bingeing goes.

    Jonsgurl- I'm thinking that you're right. Next time I am INSISTING on cooking at least a few meals and if they dont like it- tough.
  • Ohhhh my
    My family does that too when I go home. They try to "love you with food" . I'm known as the food snob I DONT NEED TO HAVE A 3rd PLATE ! ....don't fall for it stick to your guns or should I say plan & snacks. Hang in there


  • Jeeeeez, your are far from crazy!

    People never mean don't do you wrong, but it is still annoying. I might be rude, but if they are offended by the fact you bring your own snack, than be it!
  • Crazy? You sound absolutely sane! And I feel for you and know the MIL-food-issue very well myself. Luckily I went vegan. So most of her greasy calorie-bombs are out of question anyway and I don't have to make any excuses. IMO you being a dancer should be an easily understandable reason for you being very aware of what you eat.

    I am really impressed by you surviving a whole week of this and hope you don't let them get into your head too much.
  • Far from it. Nobody really knows what a proper portion looks like anyway.