So, it seems pretty standard to find "older" men with "younger" women. For me, its always been the opposite. I don't intentionally seek out younger men, but it ultimately works out like that. My mom is 6 years older than my dad. Yeah, it's not a big deal now, but I'm sure they were given plenty of "advice" lol when they met back in the 60's.

Anyway, my boyfriend is 9 years younger than me. 27/36, It kinda scares me honestly. Like whats gonna happen when I hit 40 and he's barely 32. I don't have any doubts about his feelings, and our relationship is pretty great, but I know how I was when I was 27 - unsure, never happy with the person I was with etc.......

I'd really like to hear some success stories to ease my mind

Don't let age bother you. My husband is 6 years older than me...which, like with your parents, is becoming less of a gap as we get older...but when we started dating I was 19 and he was 25.

As far as older women with younger men...you're both adults. As long as you guys are both at similar emotional maturities and (less importantly) similar points in your life...age is just a number.

What other people think is not a big deal, its all about how you guys feel about each other. by the time you hit 40 you guys will have been together a while, and moving forward in your lives as a team, so the age gap is going to close more and more the longer you're together.

Don't worry about the future, enjoy being together and respect each other and the rest will take care of itself.

My mom is 52 and her husband is 26 lol, I really don't know what to think of it (I'm older than 26...) but hey, at least you are old enough to know to enjoy life What if he got hit by a bus tomorrow? Just enjoy yourself if you are happy.

On the flip side, my best friend & his girlfriend started dating at 15. We all laughed that they wouldn't make it a month, well, that was almost 15 years ago... age stereotypes aside, some do just fine.

WOW @ Sacha!!! That's a HUGE difference but you're right, as long as the parties involved are Happy, then whats the issue?

@ ArtyKay - that's true - we're similar maturity wise, so it works for us, nothing else should really matter (within reason LOL)

I really agree with the above that it is about maturity level. I'm very mature for my age, so I need to date older guys (I'm 23, current guy is 30). I've tried dating my own age and it just hasn't worked this far.

The only problem I could see is that if he wants kids you don't have a lot of time to do that in a healthy way, since pregnancy after 40 has increased risks and almost nothing strains a marriage as much as a child with health problems or (god forbid) losing your child.

And even if he doesn't want to have kids now he might change his mind when you are 45 and he is 36.

Another problem is that men who's wifes/partners go through menopause are more likely to have severe middle age crisis.

Now both of these things are simply something you can discuss, plan and get over if you are truly in love On the other hand there is nothing wrong with loving someone for a while and parting ways later when things aren't as pleasant anymore.

My partner is 21 years younger than me and it used to bother me, but not her. We have been together for nearly thirteen years and married for ten. Totally devoted!

I am keenly aware that, in the normal course of events, I will die before her and leave her alone probably at an age when she may feel she cannot form another committed relationship ... or even want to. As I think she is the most wonderful person in the world, it upsets me to think she may be without a significant other when she is passing 60 too.

However, right now our age gap is no problem. We have so much in common, have weathered so much together and achieved so much happiness that it almost surprises us if anyone notices. I think someone has only once mistaken her for my daughter and then we just giggled and put them right.

Don't have `future fears'... it sounds like you two are pretty solid and age is not a worry for him. Like you, it was me who had concerns and I wasted a whole lot of good time on it!

My mom is 11 years older than my step-dad. When she was 40 and he was 29, they had twins. They've been together for 15 years now, I think.. She's 52 and he is 41. They still love each other like the day they met

We used to tease her saying she needed a younger man to keep up with her! (and all the robbing the cradle & such)

@ Sinioa - that's fantastic, It makes me happy to hear your story.

@ Kat - yeah I get the same. I know my age difference isn't that huge, but I do get the robbing the cradle and cougar jokes LOL. It doesn't bother me, and I love that your mom and step dad are still going strong!

Eh..when people make robbing the cradle jokes I just tell them that he's not robbing the cradle...I'm robbing the grave!

/\ LOL!!!! that's awesome

My husband is 8 years older than me and we couldn't be happier! And besides the age difference, we have another eyebrow-raiser-we met on the internet. When we first got together you didn't hear about many successful online relationships, but we proved everybody wrong I'm happy to say Every relationship is different. We'll be married 7 years (together 8) in February. The age difference has never bothered either of us. There is a lot more to a relationship than age!

I'm five years older than my partner. I considered the issue for, ooh, a good ten minutes before we got together, when we were 28/23 respectively. I honestly don't think of only five years as an age gap, it's just a little less common in mixed-sex relationships for the woman to be older - or at least, it's less expected. I have friends who have a 28 year age gap and got together when the younger partner was 19. They've been together 15 years now, have children and so forth. Yes, an age gap that large is less common, and yes, chances are the younger partner will be widowed relatively young, but hey, how many relationships last that long anyway?

There are generally more issues, maturity wise, with younger men and older women, especially when both parties are not near middle age. That being said, it can totally work! The people involved make the difference, not any specific number.

My husband is eight (briefly nine) years older than me, and when we met I was 19 and he, 28. You can bet both families were a little trepedacious initially, until they saw our relationship. Now, three kids and six years later, we're even more in love and joyously content than when we were courting, and it was the best decision of our lives. There is a little bit of an experience gap, as I was in college and my husband was a professional with his own home by the time we met - he spent more time working, acquiring assets, traveling, and everything else before our marriage that I just never had time to do. But that is really the only gap between us and it has become more irrelevant the longer we have been married. We love one another more than anyone else on this earth and work hard for our family and God every day, those attitudes make so much more of a difference than any generational gap.

That said, I do start getting twitchy when age gaps are more than 10-12 years, because the things the couple have in common are less and less as the gap widens, not to mention the issues of one spouse dying far prior to the other. But those are general issues, and not applicable to every couple in that situation.

I just joke that my husband was driving by the elementary school and I was so cute, he just couldn't resist. He HATES that joke