I've been having alot off issues physically over the past several-6 months. I'm constantly tired, restless sleep, erratic TOMs, depressed, sweats, gaining weight, and overall not feeling great. Well i went to my f/u physical appt this morning and all signs lead to perimenopause I'm devastated, i never really thought about it being only 37. Then she went on to say how high the risks were for having a baby and so on. I've wanted kids since i was a kid myself and to hear that it may never happen saddens me.

To add insult to injury, i weight myself for the first time in over a month and i've gained back all the weight i lost on ww. Wondering if anyone here has been through this sort of thing. I know nothing about it as my mum went through it in her 50's. The dr. did take blood to test all hormones so i should know more within a week.

Thanks.

I do not really have any words of advice, but I just wanted to say that I am so sorry to hear about the stress and sadness you must be feeling right now. I hope things get better for you!!

Sounds like you could use a . Maybe, she meant at your present weight it would be a high risk to have a baby. Maybe, you could ask when you get to your goal weight about having a baby. Did you talk to an obygyn or just a family doctor?

Thank you for the hugs! No she basically said my eggs are old at 37 and things start to slow down and this all could prevent me getting pregnant as time goes on. Never mentioned weight.

Just wanted to sorry about the bad news too. You might find some good resources in the dieting with obstacles section as I know there is a pcos thread and others dealing with perimenopause might post there. However, if she was only commenting on your age many woman get preggo in late 30s or even early 40s. I know it is anecdotal but it can happen. I hope your tests bring good news.

Thanks so much, i was looking through to see if there was a category for something like this and didn't notice that. Thanks! I'll go read, maybe i'm not alone

You might want to check out the Mayo Clinic website. Women's fertility does decline with age and erratic TOM does complicate the situation. But, women do get pregnant later in life, and there is even a term: "change of life baby"..meaning a baby conceived during early/peri menopause. I know because I am one! My mother had me when she was 40.

Don't despair. I wanted a baby as much as anyone ever did, but it did not work out for me. It is a sadness, but it does not have to define your life or who you are.

Was this with a gyno or a general practitioner?

I sympathize with wanting children. We have Male Factor Infertility. Our insurance doesn't cover a cent for visits to the infertility specialists, so we're slowing saving money just for the initial visit and bloodwork/tests that will be run.

Others have asked and I want to reiterate...what kind of doctor was this?

Sending you lots of :::HGUS:::: I don't really have any advice, but I can't imagine the stress and feelings your have right now. Keep your chin up, things will get better!

Thanks! It was the PCP that i saw. She said all the symptoms lead to that but the bloodwork would tell all. I can't imagine what else it may be, with so many of the symptoms. I've been trying to get to sleep earlier the past several nights as i'm so tired during the day. Seems to be better. Just wish i had more energy. I changed to exercise in my basement last night and never did it If it is the case, i should see what can be done about my eggs before they are really "old"!!

Geesh, never thought at barely 37 in June that i would be dealing with this. Oh well, back on track with ww and tracking so that feels better. Probably go back to my meeting Sat morning for the first time since May.

It's hard to stay positive when life throws us curve balls, but by doing the things that make you feel better (staying on plan, attending meetings, etc) it will help you be more positive with everything! You're off to a great start, just keep that positive attitude and everything will turn out fine!

if its any consolation. My mum was premenipause for a while, but she still got pregnant, at 45-47 (i dont remember her exact age), 20+ years after having her first two. Its not impossible

Jinksie, that's what my PCP said, she said you know those families that have a 15-20 age difference....that's this situation lol! Guess if it's meant to be it will happen right? I did a couple of things this week to cheer me up like color my getting so gray hair, got a mani and pedi with my bf's 11 yo daughter that we have every other weekend and stuff like that Today is better. I have decided to go off the pill last night after a long conversation with my bf. We've been talking about it for a year now anyways.

I don't have any specific advice for this situation, but I wanted to send along a hug.