Hi everyone!
I'm having a mental dilemma, and I'd love some input.
So I'm dating this guy, we've been going out for just over a month now. To me, he's ideal in many ways--has an M.A., is a teacher, smart, tall...and bonus, he's HOT. He likes to work out and eat healthy, I noticed right away that he's got some nice (amazing, drool-worthy) arm muscles, and last night when I was with him, I felt a pretty amazing six-pack under his shirt.
The problem is that I'm just having trouble with this match of him and me, in terms of our opposing body types. I don't know if it's that I don't believe it when he says he's attracted to me, or what. Now, intellectually, I know that all kinds of people are attracted to all kinds of people, and just because he's so built and I'm so...not, doesn't mean he couldn't be attracted to me. And if a friend were expressing similar concerns, I would think she were crazy, because why wouldn't he be totally hot for her!
I realize that I'm a lovely, interesting, and yes, attractive woman. I know this. But...at the same time...I just wonder about this man who is so hot and so into me, it doesn't seem possible at all, being the size that I am.
So, any tips on how to just accept this? How to get over this mental block? It just feels like a disconnect, and it's not anything against me at all--it's more a feeling that, how can a guy like this, in the culture that we live in, be attracted to me? I just go back and forth, because as I type this, I see how totally ridiculous this sounds. I'm lovely! But...I'm obese too, and this world has been telling me all my life that hot fit men belong with hot fit women. What to do?!