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Originally Posted by Misty4105
I will start at 2000 then as go from there. I am the type of person that if I dont see results like ASAP I give up
I know thats not good but I do. I get so frustrated with it and always feel like a failure.
This really is something you will have to change about yourself, because no matter how few calories you eat (even if it's zero) there will come a time when your results will slow or stall. If you judge your success purely by the scale, even if you eat absolutely nothing, you will eventually see and feel failure and frustration.
I've been on the diet rollercoaster since I was 5 years old, and I always felt as you do, and the frustration drove me off every diet I ever attempted except this current one (and I'm succeeding at this current one, only because I changed my expectations and definitions of success).
It's inevitable (if your expectation is steady, constant, "motivating" weight loss) to reach that point where you think "at this rate, I'll never lose all the weight I need to. I'm working this hard to only lose 1/2 a pound, it's just not worth it, if I'm going to be fat forever, at least if I stop dieting I'll get to enjoy eating what I want to."
I firmly believe the ONLY way to lose weight, is to refuse to give in to frustration and the easiest way to do that is to eliminate the frustration. Frustration is a choice, because frustration can only occur when reality doesn't meet your expectations. YOu can prevent frustration entirely by changing your expectations, and with weight loss if you expect constant, consistent, rapid, ASAP results, you are going to eventually be so disappointed and frustrated that you're going to quit. If you "need" ASAP results, you're going to eventually fail, because ASAP almost never is sustainable for the long haul.
I was like you for more than 30 years (since I was 5 years old and put on my first diet) and frustration drove me off every diet I ever attempted, because eventually weight loss slowed to the point that the effort didn't seem worth the results. The frustration tempted me into more and more extreme and unhealthy diets because I ASSUMED I needed fast results to stay motivated. The more extremely you diet, the more extremely you have to diet "the next time" to see results comparable to the first time. It means each diet is harder and more frustrating than the last, and giving up is inevitable because there's no way to sustain "motivating" weight loss results.
It sadly took me 35 years to realize that all I needed for success was to change my expectations. Believing that I needed rapid weight loss to stay motivated, insured that I would never stay motivated, because rapid weight loss can almost never be achieved all the way to goal. You're dooming yourself to failure if you've decided that you can't succeed without rapid weight loss.