You guys have helped me tremendously!
^^That's exactly how I ended up squatting while holding the weight. Is it what I intended? NO. But, it was like gravity took over for me and there I ended up. May I say I have never been able to do that in all my 37 years?
Now, as far as flexibility, I can see that these might be helpful. As far as building strength I thought the act of holding the thighs just below parallel to the floor (essentially stopping yourself from sitting all the way down) was the way to go.
Apparently I shouldn't be thinking so much, and just doing them.
Lily, you're exactly right, all my weight was in my toes even before my heels came up off the floor. I'm going to try to practice standing with my toes lifted off the floor to remind myself to put my weight in my heels.
Kaw, thanks so much for telling me to spread my feet wider! Duh, never occured to me, and I just tried it out and it helped a ton!
I love this site, you guys rock! (By the way, tomorrow night is lunges, that didn't go so well last week either. I will try not to bore you with the details!

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