Hi, I am Tina and I am here for some moral support.

I don't know if it's just me, but lately there seems to be a lot of bullying towards people who are over the UK size 14 lately, I am heading towards a size 26/28 unfortunately. People on the high-street picking out people like me just because of the weight randomly, it doesn't matter which city or town you're in, I was wondering if anyone else has been experiencing this?

Also I've been told by some of the people who do this that they do this for my own good, to motivate me to lose weight - I don't know about you guys but I when I am stressed out I go on a binge, so it does the reverse for me.

Also, 8 months ago I gave birth to my first born son and even when I was pregnant, I was actually quite noticeably pregnant, but still got the abuse, because people in town knew me before pregnancy. People accuse me of being fat and fat is lazy according to them, yet I can actually out walk a lot of thinner people. I walk everywhere, I don't have the means for a car and I can't afford transport, so on an average day I walk 3 to 8 miles as I am in a village on the edge of Rugby town. Problem is, I am too busy to do any other exercise because of the baby. Yes my weight has been stable for the last 4 months but it's not going up or down, and I eat 2300 calories or less a day.

Problem is, I want to lose weight, desperately because I am sick of the abuse I get from total strangers, yet here I am, pregnant again, it's beginning to look a bit hopeless. The worse thing is, I've just got over post natal depression which was actually caused by skinny nurses at the hospital, as my weight concerned them, they tried to make me take clexane because of my weight making me a higher risk for clots etc, and kept me in for a week because my foot swelled up, despite no other signs of blood pressure. They only released me because I started to get blood pressure on the 5th day due to stress caused by them, and a complaint I made as I overheard the nurses say the hospital meals would do me good to knock the weight off!

Relatives and friends of mine who aren't as big, don't believe that fat hate is really out there to this extent. Am I really alone in this?

Sorry for the rant xxx

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I can totally relate. I've been fat all my life since I was 7. At that age, it was people in restaurants, that was back in the 80s when people weren't as big overall. They would point and stare at me, as if I were an object of curiosity, rather than a person.

As I got older, I'd get the cowards who would walk by me and say stuff under their breath so they could not be heard, usually comments about my weight.

Then I get random "drive-bys" usually young people in cars screaming things or laughing and pointing at me, this happened much more often when I was at my highest weight (400+ lbs).

I have since lost over 150 lbs, but occasionally I still get people who do the random drive-by taunts and make comments. People have no idea unless you have been there. It makes you feel completely subhuman. And for those that think they are "helping" makes the problem actually far worse, because it drives you to be comforted, and what is usually the closest thing available? Food. Binging.

And, to think this kind of bigotry is somehow sanctioned by our society makes me ill. I'm not in the UK, I'm in the U.S., but you aren't alone. Just because people are bigger here, doesn't mean they lay off any less.

As I've lost weight, this has morphed into increased positive and sexual attention, and that also kinda rubs me the wrong way in a way. I'm a guy, btw, so it's not just girls. And, I found in a way that too repulsed me because ti was like....still just a piece of meat, but now they're licking their chops. Like even though obviously it's a positive good thing, it's also kinda weird. And I react to it because of my history being fat. So I dunno, still learning and growing and getting through this day by day, and you can do it too. I can totally relate!

thanks at least I know it's not just Britain!

Welcome and good luck!

Dhani

Hi and welcome! We're glad to have you here! Unfortunately the treatment and attitudes toward fat people is the same around the world. There are times that I get that in the US too. But someday I'll no longer be one of the fat folks! then maybe I'll get the position in the company I work for that I want in sales.

Welcome! It is wrong for people to be so cruel, particularly those charged with your care. This is a greata site for support. Best wishes in all your goals!

I just did the math, and I, TOO am 18 stones and about 10lbs! I think I am going UK, and focus on losing a stone at a time! Thanks, and welcome aboard!

Hi tina, I have just discovered this site and like you am looking for support to stop this cycle of dieting and then binging. I understand how you feel especially the overeating when stressed and upset. Fingers crossed we both achieve success over the next year.