Hi everyone,

I have to say, i adore this site. ive been lurking on here for a while now, and have just managed to get the nerve to register and post.

These first posts are always the hardest i think. I never know what to say about myself that other people will find the tiniest bit interesting, so Im going to stick to the weight stuff. I'm currently 230 pounds. It has taken me two long months to lose 10 pounds and im really struggling. I have so much to lose its quite terrifying. I hate myself for getting this big, and i cant even let my boyfriend touch me these days. Honestly, im miserable at the minute and cant drag myself out of this.

Im currently calorie counting, aiming for 1400 or lower per day. I go to the gym at least 3 times a week doing 40 mins of cardio and some toning exercise. From the moment i get there, i count the minutes until i can leave. The changing rooms are the worst, especially seeing all these amazing bodies around me, and knowing that even if i lose this weight i wont ever look like that.

Im hoping for just one person to reply and tell me its normal to feel like this, that it gets easier. i just need to know that im not alone i think.

For those of you who have read this far, thank you, i really appreciate it

it will get easier. i know that i feel the same as you. what has helped me is knowing what good i'm doing for myself. that it is possible. that i deserve to be healthy and happy. and being surrounded by positiveness here is awesome. one day at a time and one pound at a time. i'm here for you!

Welcome and good luck!

Dhani

I can't promise it will get easier, some people always hate the gym and exercise. I can say for me it's been night and day. At first I hated it I had to drag myself there and couldn't wait to leave. Now I look forward to it and exercise has become a regular part of my life. Good luck to you - hang in there!

Welcome, glad to have you come out of lurkdom to join us. I suggest you look for a Support Group or Challenge to join; a small group of friends to help keep you motivated, find one that inspires you or fits your needs, and just post to join.

we're so glad you found us and decided to join
We here for each other
I love making new friends that I can help and encourage and they can do the same for me.
Hugs and Support on your wieght loss journey

Welcome to the forum and congrats on your first 10 Lbs!!
Try to focus on the positive, if you lost 10 lbs once you can do it again! then your down 20, and again is 30.
I hope you get your confidence back and let your boyfriend back in. Not only is a loved one great support but probably the most fun exercise there is!

Welcome! I wish you the best of luck in reaching your goals! I know its a hard journey but so worth it once you get closer. I counted calories for years and lately have been focusing on what I am eating more. I havent been eating processed foods and its made such a difference for me!

Again good luck! you are in the right spot!

Hi and welcome to 3FC.

Good luck with your goals.

Hugs
Michelle

Hi, I just joined myself. I am in the same spot. I couldn't believe I LET myself get this big. And I hated myself for it. But every time, I get myself to the gym I like myself a little more. I am taking control of my destiny and that feels awesome. I joined a gym that is just for women, and sometimes people talk to me to give me tips and such, but I try to do my own thing. It doesn't get easier for me, but I am happier with myself.

i didnt think i would get so many replies, thank you all! im going to go look around the rest of the topics, and find myself a challenge like patchworkpenguin suggests

Hello and welcome to 3FC. Good luck to you in your journey and in reaching all your goals.

Welcome to 3FC, we are glad you are here!