In denial?

  • I know I need to lose weight. When I see pictures of myself it breaks my heart to see how large I let myself get (especially after I sucessfully lost 40 pounds two years ago and I've regained all but 10). I know I need to diet. I know I need to exercise. But everytime there are cookies in the breakroom I find myself eating two or three.

    I find myself eating like my roommates (all naturally skinny-they literally eat chips EVERY night and large meals and don't exercise but are a size 6). I find myself not watching portion control. I find myself eating despite the fact that I'm NOT hungry in the least.

    It's like my brain is in denial that I can't eat how I want and lose weight. I remember when I lost the 40 pounds I was so motivated and dedicated to eating healthy and working out. But for some reason I can't get back to that place. I know what I need to do but I can't seem to convince myself to do it.

    Has anyone else ever felt this way? What did you do to get yourself started again? I don't know what to do at this point. When I wake up in the morning I have so much determination. But when the french fries, cupcakes, and cookies come around for free I find myself accepting them without thinking. How do I stop??
  • I am in this very situation right now. High school cheerleader turns fat girl. It breaks my heart that I let myself go. My fiance says he loves me at any size but when I get married after school I want to be gorgeous. I finally decided that this coming Monday is my day to start and I am sticking to it. I am doing the C25k. IF you want to be accountability partners we could be email buddies and really help each other stay on track.

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    All the best of luck

    Shelby
  • I lived for all the treats and junk food they have at our office. Honestly, it's so hard to say no. But, what I found was that after the first couple of times of saying no, it became easier. I'm addicted to chocolate and I have a candy dish 5 feet from my desk, and I never go over there.

    What has also helped is that people know that I'm exercising, eating healthy and losing, so I dont' take the candy, etc. because they will give me those looks - the "why the heck is she eating that" look, so I feel compelled NOT to eat it.

    The best thing to do is to have healthier options, if you want to eat more, eat more healthy food. Have an apple with reduced fat peanut butter. There's nothing wrong with saying no - you just have to get used to it.
  • I was there! Everyday! At my job there are always goodies and treats. It's hard to resist. So because I knew i had to do something about it, I just ate half of what I would normally eat when I wasn't dieting. So I still ate that donut, but only half of it, I still had that kolache, but again, only half, and I still had cookies and cake, but only half! See the pattern! Even with the breakfast and lunch meals and dinners, I just cut my servings into half. I drank plenty of water, and I got full. I started losing weight immediately, and as I made progress, I realized I needed to omit some of the bad things. At the end, I had to sacrifice red meat, pork, cheese, and refined sugars. My body just couldn't digest those foods properly. I enjoy a small sweet treat every now and then, but I know when and where to stop. Best of luck on your goals!
  • For me it came down to a realization, a choice, and a plan. I have a plan for eating. I know that cupcakes and treats are not on that plan, and that helps. I also "plan" for my treats. For example, date night, I will be having pizza or fajitas or whatever it is i've been craving that week. I allow myself that momentary "cheat" but hop right back on after. I also pass things up so that I can save for the good stuff. Like instead of the banana bread or donuts at the office, I will pass it up all week and get a scrumptious cheesecake or dessert when we're out one night.

    Unfortunately it took me years to be able to have the willpower to even attempt that, and I wasted so much of my life on bad food choices. When it comes right down to it, living for 20 more years is far more important than that crappy duncan hines cupcake.
  • Quote: I lived for all the treats and junk food they have at our office. Honestly, it's so hard to say no. But, what I found was that after the first couple of times of saying no, it became easier. There's nothing wrong with saying no - you just have to get used to it.
    I totally agree. Thats what I had to do in order not to sabotage my efforts. The way I see it....i work out for an hour to lose 300 calories...is that donut or cupcake which has 300 calories or more really worth it?

    My turning point came when I literally looked in the mirror and was unhappy with what I saw. On top of that, persons who had not seen me in a long time kept telling me that I was gaining weight. I was at the gym 3-4 times a week and yet I was geting fat. Not until I started exercising portion control did the weight start coming off. Mind you because I have been at this exercise thing for quite a few years, the weight is not melting off as quickly as I would like. But I am proud of myself, proud of the changes I have made, proud of how my body looks 15 lbs lighter. That gives me the motivation to keep pushing on.
  • I've just gotten over my feeling of what you describe. I had gotten down to 153 and still had a bit to lose when my monster took over and I started getting jealous... of all the foods I couldn't have that other people were eating. Long story short, I decided to go ahead and eat them. Not a smart decision. The result? Weight gain. I can honestly say I am not happy where I'm at. I was definitely happier with my weight and health at my lowest. I wish I could say that I just started my plan again, but that wasn't the case. I just finally hit the point where I realized this is NOT the direction I want to go. If I don't fix the problem now, then it's just going to get worse. I wish you the best of luck and hope you find your moment soon. =)