congratulations on doing what is right for you, and not letting them get you too down.
i'm nowhere near goal, still in the beginning stages of losing. but in the past, when i have been at a more fit and healthy place, i have experienced this.
but interestingly enough, i am surprised to find some of this going on now, too, even though i am still very much in the losing phase (the way beginning of that phase in fact).
it is especially difficult for me to understand when this actually comes from other people who are themselves trying to lose weight, because for some reason they want me to do it their way. it seems like they should understand what it is like to evaluate your situation, take your own history and tendencies into account, and come up with a plan tailored to fit yourself so that you can best try to achieve your goals and best try to avoid getting tripped up.
anyway, congrats again to you for doing what works for you.