So I've decided to take control of my weight. Tonight was the breaking point. My brother told me that I need to lose weight and he doesn't care if I starve myself, but I need to do it. Well obviously I am not going to starve myself but I have to start dieting tomorrow because I cannot have people treat me this way and look down on me anymore.

I've struggled with my weight my whole life. I want to get down to 150 which is less than I was at my high school weight. I weighed about 170 in high school and dream of having that body back. I am a big girl...athletic and I think 150 would be good on me.

I just want to stick with eating healthy this time. Every time I start to lose weight I go back to eating fast food and gain it back. Lately I haven't even been able to start to lose. I'll have a good day and then the next day I start eating bad food again. I need to break this cycle for good and claim my life back!!

Congratulations!!

I really think someone needs to be in the right frame of mind to be successful. Make sure you're doing this for YOU, and not everyone else!!

What plan will you use? Planning is absolute key. I'm doing south beach, which has been great at getting me off of fast food. There's lots of other options here as well, you might want to browse and see what is good for you.

Good luck!!

I agree, you need some kind of structure. There are loads of options for dieting and exercise. It's not easy but the only way to succeed is just to never stop trying. If I stopped whenever I ate a little too much or skipped a day of exercise, I wouldn't be anywhere near where I am now. You can do it!

I'm sorry to hear that you feel that you are looked down on by your family for your weight. I'm sure that what your brother said was out of love and concern for you, especially if you aren't happy with your weight. He sure could have said it in a more positive way, though! Just take that and turn it into positive action for him.

It sounds like your brother isn't the most tactful soul even if he means well. I agree that you need to do it for you, because that's what will keep you going when you have moments where you struggle. It's worth having a good think about what your personal motivation is besides the desire to stop someone putting you down.

Another thing to consider is learning to cook lighter versions of some of the foods you tend to crave. For example, I love curries but the restaurants here tend to make them loaded with cream, butter or coconut. I got a low-fat Indian cookbook and now I can make dishes that not only taste good for when the craving hits but don't give me that overloaded, slightly sick feeling afterwards.

I hope you find a plan which you can work into your life. Good luck!

I think your brother is a bit insensitive. He might have been thinking he was being helpful, when he was being anything but. Losing weight is about doing something you are comfortable. My 2 sons and I are seeing a doctor who specializes in nutrition. What he told us at first was to eliminate things gradually. If you have a soda every day, start having one every other day. Just cut out one or two things a day.

After a few weeks my 12 year old was not improving so suspecting an allergy, he told us to remove all grains and dairy from out diets. Now for most people this would be a little drastic, but for us it has worked. In 3 weeks both my son and I lost 10 lbs. each, which was great for both of us, so now we suspect a food allergy (he had digestive problems, which started this whole thing). My 14 year old has also lost a few lbs. but since he if 5'9" and only weighs 120 lbs., he doesn't have anything to lose. He's skin and bones already.

I know that most people would think that eating this way is crazy, but it works for us. Once you get used to it, it's not really that hard. Plus we are allowed 2 "cheat" meals where we can eat whatever we want. We usually don't use them becuase we all want to be tempted.

I'm sorry this has been so long, but try just eliminating one thing at a time. Don't try to be too drastic right away. It just makes things too hard to stick to. Best of luck to you.

Regardless of if you have weight to lose no one should be talking to you like that... ridiculous!

It's great that you are doing this for yourself, for your health. Ignore the rest of the jerks and just take your time.

No matter what size you are no one should talk to another person like that. However from the sound of your post you are starting your weightloss adventure for yourself and that is what any person needs to do. Dont worry about what other people say to you and be happy with the little goals that you reach on your way toward your big goal.

Randi

Hi and welcome to 3FC.

Good luck with your goals.

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Michelle

ugh i know what your going through....if i hear "you have such a pretty face if only you'd lose some weight", or get diet advice from someone i just met without asking....people are stupid! lol

No one has the right to speak to other people like that. I, too, have battled weight my whole life, ever since childhood. My brother also said (and did) some pretty horrible things to me. In fact, I'm pretty sure part of my low self esteem issues stems from that.

I'm slowing turning things around and am learning how very WRONG he was - of course its not easy.

Good luck to you and i hope you find the support you need here