last night my hubby put his old sim in his new phone. well he forgot their was pictures of his ex gf on there. i had never seen her. well i was taking pics with his phone so i could send them to my facebook and when i went to review pics these pics showed up. they were of her bent over in g strings and stuff. the only thing that bothers me about any of it is that she is so skinny and sexy. i have never taken my shirt off in from of him in 2 years. i know that there is nothing anyone can say to make me feel better. i now he is with me and he chose me,,,,but just put yourselve in my shoes. i have cried ever since then when i think about it((

*hugz* I'm sorry

Hey but you are here to lose weight and be that sexy person you want to be- so remember that thought and cheer up! One day you'll be that sexy girl in the camera

That is just terrible. Did you tell him that you saw the pics and that they should be promptly removed? And you should not be embarassed about your own body in front of your husband!!!! Maybe it would make you feel better to get some sexy lingerie and have him take pictures of you! I am sure that he thinks that you are sexier than his ex gf!

Not to make it worse...but why did he still have them?

Moving on from that...she's from his past and probably for good reason. I know it's hard (for me definitely) dealing with women from your SO's past, but you have to keep referring to her as that: from the past.

That being said, maybe he appreciates the fact that you AREN'T the type to bend over in g-strings in pictures. Some men appreciate modesty and decency and women who are a little reserved.

Don't let it get you down. I'm sure he finds you positively sexy and irresistable...and you've never had to send dirty pictures to him for it!

thanks for responses. i am going to try to make myself feel better. i am quite depressed about the whole thing. i haven't did much today except sit here and be sad about it. i need to quit feeling sorry for myself and just keep riding my weight loss train.

It would bother me that the pictures are still on his phone more than what they looked like.

You know..there are some girls that guys just dont marry. And it seems like she was that kind of girl. It's kinda annoying that the pictures are still there though..maybe its time for a diff phone with a new sim card.

Totally annoying and sad at the same time that they're still there, those pics! I feel for you.

But hey, one of these days, very soon!, that'll be you looking AWESOME in a picture


Annie

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First off, this is something you need to speak to him about! People shouldn't carry around pictures of their half-dressed ex. Look, men are visual creatures and sometimes they might look at pics on the computer or in magazines or tv of nameless unclothed women. I get that. But an ex-girlfriend is very personal. I don't blame you for feeling awful about this, it's like he's carrying around a trophy. It makes you feel terrible and he needs to know this.

Secondly, you may want to give a little thought to your physical relationship with him. If you haven't taken off your shirt in front of him in 2 years then that indicates a problem in your shared intimacy. Not wanting to be intimate with your husband can cause a major problem for both of you down the line. I know how you feel, I've spent years avoiding being touched because I hate my stomach so much, at times I felt like I wasn't even womanly. But who is my husband going to turn to if not me? You want him staring at the phone thinking about the good old days?

Somehow you have to reconcile between these 2 predicaments. If you want him to make a change then you'll probably have to make one too.

yeah, he was a major doofus for not deleting the stupid things. men are very visual and I wouldn't assume the saved pics mean there are lingering emotional ties. talk to him about how much it bothered you.

your hubby looks at you and sees you as someone he loves deeply and wants to share his life with.

Was his old sim from before he met you and he changed the sim around that time? Personally, I would not get on him about that. There were pics on my old sim that I had forgotten about (not racy ones, but still ). And I agree that there are some kinds of girls that guys just don't marry! Besides.. if she is an EX a lot of guys would look at that pic and not want anything to do with that girl because they would remember all the problems with her. Old pictures just aren't worth giving someone grief over.. they are just that... old. I found out a long time ago that you need to pick your battles even in marriage. Decide if it is worth upsetting the apple cart to you.

Oh honey I am so sorry to hear that! I know my bf had some pics of his ex and they were in an old drawer buried and we were cleaning out his room one day and he found them and he wanted to show me and i was like are you out of your mind! But yes remember you are here and youre gonna be the skinny sexy girl on his phone!! And I too feel really awkward when I take my shirt off too, I usually try to cover everything with my arms and stuff lol

So it sounds like this was an old photo that he might not have even known was there? I wouldn't have any concern over that (I've been through that too and really, it is just a goof up).

Hon, this sounds like it is a lot more about you than anything else. Your own husband hasn't seen you with your shirt off in 2 years? That sort of speaks volume about your self image. He is your husband, I'm sure he is quite sad that he doesn't even see the body of the woman he thought was beautiful enough to marry!

I so feel your pain - such pictures of a slimmer woman must hurt every woman!

But I absolutely *love* this answer:

If you do want to give her any significance at al, see her as an inspiration - you are going to be even more gorgeous but much more classy than this slut! - rather than a downer!

Ummm... sorry, I would have to disagree. My BF has some pictures of me that were a little more racy than a g-string. That doesn't make me a slut or not classy, it is just a part of our sex life, like many couples.