Has anyone seen this...http://www.fox.com/moretolove/

It is a dating show a la The Bachelor starring plus size women competing to find the man of their dreams. I just can't figure out how I feel about this. I mean, big gals need love to, and the ladies I saw in the preview were beautiful. I just am concerned that this will end up somehow being exploitive of plus size women. I hear that Emme is going to be the host, so hopefully she will make sure it stays on the up-and-up.

I don't really know why I have mixed feeling about this. Maybe because I feel a little burned that the 2 new shows about nurses are less than I expected (HawthoRNe on TNT and Nurse Jackie on Showtime. Both entertaining but perpetuating stereotypes about nurses). So, maybe the inner me is saying, great, let's see what stereotypes about fat chicks they can perpetuate. I dunno.

What do y'all think? Will you watch? Is a show like this a step forward for plus size women? Will it help or harm with the weight discrimination that is rampant in our society?

I'm going to watch at least the first episode. I like the premise of the show. I just hope that the audience gives the people on the show respect. There are just so many jerky people out there.

shoot yer teevee.

isolde

Don't think I'll watch it..Why can't they do a show with mixed body types..

I don't know if I'll watch it. I might give the first episode a chance, just to see, but any more than that, I don't know.

I’ll give it a chance. I’m a reality show junkie.

I just hate the segregation of it all - Here's the show for skinny people, and here's the special show, over to the side over here, for the bigger girls?

I much prefer the America's Next Top Model approach of having the plus sized girls and the model-body-types (not that plus sized models are usually actually PLUS SIZED, but putting that aside for a moment) in the same competition.

I'm really worried that Fox, particularly, is going to sensationalize and ridicule the heavier girls. And that would be so sad to see.

Oh dear, I just woke up from a nap and I'm really crabby, so forgive me!!!!

I'm just wondering why everybody has to be fat on the show? Almost like it's fine if fat people date, but only if they are reaching for other fat people. The women they are looking for are "voluptuous women with curves" and the men are "average guy with a big waist."

"This is a dating show that sends the right message about embracing and loving yourself no matter your shape or size," (except that fat people should only hook up with other fat people?) said executive producer Mike Fleiss. "When you are comfortable with your own body, you can really allow yourself to be open to the possibility of finding the right person to love." (But only if they are fat too?)

Edited to add: I'm totally not above watching it though and growling at the screen!

Shallow Hal?

I hope they do this nicely -- not like a freak show.

The idea of the show kind of bothers me....I am not a plus-size woman, but it almost seems like they are saying, "Well, we know the bigger girls wouldn't stand a chance competing with the skinny minis on the regular Bachelor...so why don't we just segregate them and give them their own show?" Maybe I'm wrong, but that's the vibe I get.

I hate all these reality shows anyway...they are all the same, and the couples seldom stay together!

My thoughts EXACTLY!
I've always been a curvier girl, but that doesn't mean I go for the big boys. Sheesh.

I read the synopsis and I agree with others. Why does it have to be a big guy looking for big girls? I think mixed body types would be the best option.

I don't know that's the message it sends, I know it's not the truth, having been in the BBW dating circles a bit. In college, I read a research article on the Fat Acceptance Movement, and dating and and out of the movement for overweight people, and the study found that as the amount of extra body weight increased, overweight women had far more dating options than the overweight men. I didn't think it was likely to be true (but it did tempt me into online dating, and I surprisingly did find it to be true - there were a lot of thin, attractive and even "buff" men out there, interested in me - or at leat my pic, as I found that most of the attractive and even "buff" guys who liked plus-sized women were just as shallow as my thin friends had always told me they were when they were interested in thin women).

In the fat acceptance dating circles, I met a lot of women (women my size at the time and larger) who wouldn't even give the fat or less attractive guys at the plus-size mixers the time of day, because there were plenty of thinner and more attractive men to choose from.

I don't know that there's a point, except that I don't see the show challenging stereotypes too much, because the stereotypes are too ingrained in our culture. But it's both culture and truth (mostly because of the culture) that people tend to end up with people more similar than not, and if there's a large attractiveness gap, you get the rumors "why is (s)he with him/her?"

When I was single, my mother constantly tried to set me up or push me toward men with men with whom I "had so much in common," when the only factor we usually had in common was being fat and roughly the same age. One night at a church trivia game, my mom harassed me all night to "go up and talk to" one of the guys at the mikes. She told me everything she knew about him (and it was like a spies dossier), and it made me more and more convinced we had nothing in common, but excess poundage.

I think making the show too mixed would make a lot of people uncomfortable. The closest I saw was on bits of Flavor of Love. Their were a lot of plus-sized women, and women of all races after "Flave," but boy those girls got catty and nasty about the "fat girls." As far as reality shows, I only saw it "accidentally" in channel surfing, but did catch enough of it to know I don't want to see that.

I think that in a show featuring a thin guy with a dating pool of mixed weight women, the women are going to look pitiful and desperate to most viewers (heck, I think when the format is thin guy with thin girls, the girls seem pitiful and desperate). If the format were thin girl, mixed men the thin guys ar going to look creepy/fetishist and the fat guys are going to seem pitiful and desperate (especially if fat girl chooses cute guys over the fat guys).

In a weird sense, I think chubby guys and girls may actually be the least exploitive of any mix.

I do suspect the show is going to have a lot of variety in body type (at least a lot more than generally seen in the dating shows) because "fat" covers a lot of territory, and I think for "interest," they are going to have a wide variety of people.