A while ago we had a thread called dreams and well it got so long that it got lost. I feel that it is important to keep the dreams fresh in our minds so I am starting this up agian so we can again express to our selves what we hope and dream for ourselves onthis journey.

I would like to walk and not jiggle

I would like to be comfortable with my body

I would like to be able to get my belly button pierced and wear a short top and walk down the street and have the guys turn and look at me. (not laughing)

I want to fit in the seats with my kids and not squash the little guys.

I want to be able to look at my self sideways and not see that stomach still stick out farther than my boobs

I want to be able to stand on a step ladder and not be over the limit

I want to buy a sexy teddy and wear it with out being self consious about my body

To have my husband give me that LOOK more often

to be able to run and play ball with the kids

to ride my bike without having to remove the seat with a crow bar from my butt

to paddle the canue with out having to have the boys together on the first seat to just help counterbalance the boat. and DD up there too.

to have other women think that i do not have to work for my figure

to be the role model for my business

to have my kids be so proud of me as i reach my goal

to have hubby be proud of me and actually say it

to feel small

to be comfortable enough with myself that i can do whoopie with the lights on.

What a FABULOUS topic! Let's see, hmmm. . .

To feel light and feminine

To feel delicate

For men to open the door for me, tip their hats to me, to stop and turn and look at me when I walk by, to see me as someone they want to protect rather than as someone they make hurtful comments about in the grocery store

To wear jeans with a crisp white shirt tucked in

To someday wear a whimsical Vera Wang wedding gown that bears my arms

To whirl and dance all night long; to be "dipped" and to be picked up and twirled on a dance floor

To conduct music in front of the choir and orchestra without thinking that I must look laughable up there to them

To ride piggyback in the park

To lose my gnawing sense of utter self-consciousness wherever I go

To run a long distance

To finally befriend my body and be good to it

To love myself as I should

To stroll in the hills of Ireland where the lambs play, wearing a cream aran wool sweater and loose khaki pants

To live the life I always dream about






love to all, irishwings

This is a wonderful idea, thank you ladies.


I will be able to wear sleeveless shirts without worrying about the strawberry stretchmarks that are laden on them

I will be able to buy a swimsuit that I like, not that hides my rolls or has a "fat" skirt to help me get over my huge size, maybe even a bikini

I will be seen as a threat to my friends' relationships, and not be the safe friend because I'm "fat"

I will not feel bad about gloating for my weight loss, because I deserve it

I will not let the skinny ones discourage me

I will act like a college girl

I will be desirable

I will be rock-hard, no flab

I will love myself first and foremost

I will be patient

I will be able to act like I'm 19.

Stick to your dreams, ladies. I'm sue you'll see most of them come true.

Irishwings, I particularly like the one about tucking in a white shirt. tucking in any thing will do for me.

But you've inspired me to lose enough to get into my aran sweater. It's about a size 40 so it might only take a year or so

I know what you mean! I have an aran sweater that I need to lose down to . . .maybe by the fall, I'll be a lot smaller!

When I was home for lunch, I saw a replay of a U2 concert on ABC Family channel. Bono (WHAT a hottie!) picked a girl out of the audience to come up on stage with him while he sang "With or Without You". Talk about a DREAM! They laid on the stage together, side to side, and he held her in his arms and gently kissed her when the song was over! I would be completely dizzy at that point!

And it just made me have more incentive somehow. . .I want to have amazing life experiences like that, too! And when I get healthy and learn to love myself, I pray it will happen!

I love this!

And this is the only place I feel safe in actually writing this down - too worried that folks elsewhere will laugh at me.

I want to wear short skirts and heels, tank tops, and pretty, lacy, sexy underwear! You can feel free to chuckle at that last one

I want people to see my sister and I as "the sweet one and the smart one", not "the skinny one and the fat one".

I want enough energy to get all my work done and still want to get out and do something fun - instead of pass out on the couch.

I want to shop in a REGULAR FREAKING STORE!!!!!

I want to do a charity walk/run without concern for my health.

I want to go to the doctor and hear the words "Everything looks great, see you next year".

Hehehehe - I want to audition for "Survivor"! Of course, by the time I could, they will probably have cancelled the show, but that's not the point!

You can giggle at that one too, btw



deb

What a wonderful idea! I agree with Debbers. You guys are the only people I could tell this stuff to.


Well, here goes:

I want to be able to run up the stairs and not feel like I'm going to pass out when I reach the top

I want to be stared at because I'm beautiful, not because I'm fat.

I want to have nice, toned arms, not "turkey underarms".

I want my husband to pick me up without straining.

I want to be able to chase my son without running out of breath.

I want to be able to weigh myself accurately on a normal scale, not guess as it flys past zero.

I want to weigh less than my husband!

I want to go to an amusement park and not have to worry if I will fit on the rides.

I want to wear shorts without them riding up between my legs.

I want to shop at the grocery store without people checking out what's in my shopping cart.

I want to wear a bra without the words "double" or "triple" in the size.

I want to buy clothes without having to pay extra for a bigger size.

I want to be able to walk down the street and not feel self-concious.

I want to be healthy and have a well body.

And above all, I want to know that I was strong enough to win the most gigantic battle in my life. That would truly be magical!

OH You guys have wonderful dreams!!! We deserve the stars so lets go and make our dreams come true!!

I would like to be able to play with my three small children without having to stop every 5 minutes, to catch my breath.

To renew my wedding vow, and wear the most striking dress possible.

To be carried over the threashold

To weigh less than my husband.

To look good in no matter what I put on from, sweats to sun dresses.

To see my reflection in a window and feel good about how I look.

To not feel self consious when I go into the "smaller" size clothes stores (looking for gifts for family and friends), but to also buy for myself.

To wear shorts and skimpy tops, showing off my tattoos

To be told how pretty I am, and not just my face

To fit nicely within my husband's arms

To say I've been there and back, and will never go there again.

There are many, many more dreams...... But these will do for today.

Thank you for the opportunity to write down my dreams.

Dyan

I thought of another dream. . .and this one's a biggie for me ~

To hear a group of people laughing nearby and to know for a fact that they aren't laughing at my size!

To know what it's like to be confident in one's self

To be the person I was created to be


love to all ~
irishwings

A great dream for me would be to lose enough weight that I would no longer need to wear compression hose to control the swelling in my lower legs and ankles. They are really tough to get on with knee replacements even though I wear the thigh highs.

And they are no joy on these hot humid days!