I saw your post about hot flashes under 'bite me.' Have you tried Revival soy? If you are already shaking your head and saying--yes, tried this and that--so did I. I have been visiting a site with a forum for the past couple of years called PowerSurge.com. I wish I'd found it a couple of years before that when I thought I was losing my mind! But, glad to have it now. Great message board and nice women--all about menopause. Love it.
Anyway--on these boards, the women were alwasy talking about Revival soy (can be ordered online), and they touted it for less hot flashes and night sweats and less mood swings among other things. I thought, "yeah, right, I have tried soy. The difference, I think is that it has the equivalent of 6 servings of soy per day--the same as most Asian diets. (I sound like a commercail, don't I?) Finally, I gave in and tried this stuff. I felt better in a week. No hot flashes, less night sweats, my mood has improved much and the PMS is lessened so much, I wish I'd been taking this all my life!
Now, If you have a soy allergy, of course, this won't be for you. I'd urge you to try it and visit the forum. There are women there to commiserate with and joke with about what we all are going through at this stage of our lives. I felt lost a couple of years ago. Now, I feel like this will someday pass.....