My husband passed away at home unexpectedly On Friday July 10/15. There was just the 2 of us.
I have hardly eaten anything since then, except for IP products.
I have lost several pounds, in these past few days.
I am filled with so much fear of starting to eat food and not being able to stop.
In a couple of weeks his family will be arriving. What will I do then?
This plan is so easy to do...why don't I have the energy to chop up some veggies?
Today is a busy day my husband is released from the morgue and I have an appt. with my family doctor and the funeral home.
Tomorrow is my weekly weigh in.
Maybe I don't need advice, maybe I just needed to vent.
I'm so sorry for your loss Heitina. I don't have much advice other than :hugs: It sounds like you are sticking to plan as much as possible, but you need to take care of yourself mentally as well. Sometimes, just a place to vent and let it all out is what you really need.
Heitana my thoughts are with you.
How incredible you thought to reach out to others here.
I had some tragedies happen while I was doing P1 - not has significant as yours, but hard. Staying on P1, for me, helped, because then I top of already hard situations I didn't have to worry about gaining weight.
Can you ask a friend or relative to make some soup for you? That was the easiest for me in hard situations. I measured out 8 cups of veggies (4 servings) and 32 oz. chicken or beef (4 servings) cooked it all together with some broth, and froze and ate later.
Also Rotiserrie chickens are good in a fix, or if you are near a whole Foods they have grilled chicken breasts and pre-made veggies. Also microwaving frozen veggies I could get down.
If I were you I would eat my favorite easiest foods, eat extra packets as you need to, and let yourself cry and/or grieve however you need to - there is no right way to grieve.
Last edited by Grateful4Health; 07-14-2015 at 11:06 AM.
Heitina - I am so sorry to hear of your loss! I hope you have some support helping you with some of these difficult details. Maybe ask a friend or neighbor (church family if that applies) to prepare some meals for you, and let them know what's on plan? Ask your coach for other suggestions/resources.
LegalEagle is right, this is a traumatic time for you and you need to take care of yourself!
Heitina, I'm so, so sorry for your loss. It must be even harder for you since it was unexpected.
I know whenever I have had a friend suffer a loss, I want to help, and often I don't know how. I'm sure your friends feel the same way. Please let them know what you need. Let them prepare meals for you, tell them what you can eat, freezable meals that you can take out and not have to worry about preparing. Let them shop for you. They will be happy to help.
Maybe in a few days when you're feeling more up to it, ask a friend over to help you prepare some meals, cut up veggies to put into ziplocs, whatever else you can think of... it will be easier for you if you have someone to do it with you.
Later when his family comes, don't be afraid to get takeout meals for them, and just eat what you've made for yourself and frozen.
Please do post here even if you just need some shoulders to cry on. {{{hugs}}}
I am so sorry for your loss. I wish for you strength during this time. I hope that if you communicate your food needs to your family and friends, they will support you.
My husband and divorced 2 years ago and I let go of the plan, just couldn't take care of myself enough to do it. But here I am, 2 years later, feeling empowered and ready to start over! Your husband dying is so much more painful, honestly, I don't think I could remain on plan.
Just focus on family, try not to abuse food, but do eat what you can, drink a lot of water ( I found out crying really does "drain" you) and remember, we are here, even if you decide to take a break. This is an expensive, time consuming regimen.
Time doesn't heal ( that's a lie) but at least know that one day, you will regain the strength you need. Big hugs
Christine
Right now, you need to take care of yourself in the best way you can - I can only imagine how out-of-control everything must feel right now & could see where IP would provided structure and a sense of control - just try not to add any additional stress.
I am so terribly sorry to hear about your husband's passing.
Take all the time that you need and do not pressure yourself to be perfect in any way right now. Staying on or close to protocol may be helpful but if it's an additional stress, it's not worth it. And like everyone else has said, reach out to friends and family.
On IP while grieving - need advice
I hope you have some support helping you with some of these difficult details. Maybe ask a friend or neighbor (church family if that applies) to prepare some meals for you, and let them know what's on plan? Ask your coach for other suggestions/resources.
