[Maureen45]

Help!!!I need some support. My husband made me go back to work after I had lost over #40. I am a cake decorator and make good money at it...

However I am resentful of him making me go back and so I eat sweets... I feel like I am getting back at him by him not being able to control me in this area. He makes all my meals for me...( to try to help me stay on MY diet!)
I have put back on #10 and feel out of control because I am miserable with myself for putting back on the weight and besides that I am addicted to sugar. Any suggestions would be helpful.

Thanks, Maureen

[WeighToGo]

Maureen-

You sound like you are halfway there. You sound like you have an awareness of what is going on and why. Perhaps a couple of sessions with a counselor would help you resolve this problem in a positive direction. I think you may be closer to solving this than you think.

Would your Tools for Living help? Maybe you could look at reframing the situation.

[quilting lady]

Maureen45,
I deleted the post I had originally posted to you because I gave you a sound scolding and after I read it I thought geez, here she came asking for help not a kick in the arse.

I agree with WeighTo Go. It appears that you need to hurt your husband by hurting yourself. A counselor would be a very good idea. This goes deeper than being pissed off because you had to go back to work.

I hope you find the way to get back on your weight loss journey. You have the tools. Tomarrow is a brand new day. Start journalling everything that goes into yur mouth. Drink your water. Get OP and go back to meetings and come here often.

We care about you
QL

[getfit]

I feel for you, I used to do the same exact thing and the real truth is, I gave it up to do something else because when I bake it, I eat it! I know that I should be stronger, etc. etc. but I knew that is was too much for me to handle and realized there were other things (occupation-wise) for me to do.

I will hope that you are more successful than me at restraining but this is just a piece of info from one who has been there! Good luck.

[Chillin]

Maureen, I have been where you are emotionally so many times. Feeling like DH was trying to control my life so I'd just show him. Let him know I was in charge and if I wanted to eat then I'd darn well do it .

The thing is, you are really hurting yourself, and he is still in control since you are letting his actions "bait" you into eating. When you get that urge, take a few deep breaths and think about what you really want out of life. If part of what you want includes being healthy, then you know what you need to do. Take care and be good to yourself.

Dear Maureen: You say you resent your husb for making you go back to work... but, here's my thinking on it. You said you make good money at it. You wouldn't make good money at it if you weren't GOOD at it, talented, and skillful. So, being creative should give you an outlet for yourself because of all the compliments you must get on your work -- You are the Monet of Desserts. That having been said, instead of being mad at him for making you go back to work, turn it around and appreciate the opportunity you now have to express yourself artistically (take photos of your really good stuff); create a portfolio for yourself, and don't let working get in the way of success... It can BE your source of success and satisfaction and also further inspiration to stay slim.... Good Luck. (Also, w/ the extra income, you can save up $$ to go on a vacation involving a bathingsuit that you would ordinarily not have worn, perhaps.... hmmmm!

[Maureen45]

Thank you so much ...all of you for your suggestions. It has made me feel much better just getting it off my chest telling someone how I feel. I really did try today not to eat any sweets at work and was quite proud of myself.
I guess I have to take it one day at a time, and get through it succesfully knowing that it will make me happier in the long run.
Thanks for all your support,
Maureen

[Itryharder]

Maureen,
I'm so glad you're doing better. Keep up the good work and good for you for realizing the value of posting a problem and getting it out in the open.
Continued good luck!