Thanks for your advice and understanding....I'm not in a hurry to go to the doc (do not see the Fibro doc anynmore cause he does nothing but say we are the same age and he has aches and pains too!) ......... I have had pain before "during" and it has always gone away, last weekend it lasted for two days (constant) no relief and that is when I told him he could not touch me anymore....I had to take my codine (none for 2 years now) and that didn't even help, almost went to the emergency room but it finally let up. I am also having lowback, hip and leg pain all on the same side, which is why I think it is the Fibro, hurts to sit too. I know it will go away on its own.......The drs office used to give me antibiotics untill the pain was gone (when I have had it before thinking it was bladder) and it would go away. (But they will not give antibiotics anymore, just want to send you to a specialist!!!!!!!!!!!) I do not want to go to another dr. If it were not for Dh and his needs....I would not have a problem coping with the pain. He is very demanding when it comes to"SEX" and that makes me uncomortable but he was much nicer about it this weekend and yes Meme...we do not believe in Divorce that is why I was shocked! I think he might be going through male menopause!!!!! (still says no sex no marraige though ) He gets it in his mind that he needs it at least twice a week whether he can do it or not and I just have to put up with it. Men.....
Joanne, Serenity and Meme, I do not get it int he knees but in the hips and I have trouble getting up too and sometimes stumbling around, I bet if we all went out together they would call us a bunch of drunks
Meme.....I used to have terrible foot pain and did go to the foot doc and used to get shots in the balls of my feet all the time, I got orthtics too and that helped but you can't wear dress shoes with them, that is why I have trouble finding shoes, I have to have good support and regular shoes do not have enough. My whole body feels better when I wear my New Balance walking shoes..........That is why I hate to go anywhere..just too much pain to deal with and look good too! I have to be comfy, that is important I just quit going to all my docs....and am treating my Fibro myself........just staying home! If They would get one in this area that new something I would go for help again! I have been treated very badly by docs in the past and do not want to go through that again...unless absoulutley necesssay!
Mima..you Brad sounds like such a sweetie!
Yappy that was no typo Thanks for the new thread
I think I ate too much today....no cake but ate way too much sherbert and then something salty and then something sweet again..........alll my banked points are gone now and Im' not sure I want to add up what I ate! One bad day in 2 years..not too bad, but..don't want it to lead to anything steady! maybe I'm trying to eat the pain away!
Oh DARN. I think I missed a thread about sex!!!!
I will have to read back there tomorrow when I should be working.
OK guys, I may be the baby of the group and my exboyfriend and I are really still trying to make a go of this. But when we first started seeing each other we were both 37. Now we are both 46. Friday nite he fell asleep when he was sitting on the couch at his house waiting to call me as he got home at 5pm. He called me at 10pm all ticked off that he had just drifted off. I said....this is what happens when old farts try to date. So last nite, he comes over and it was hot, hot, hot. All I had to do was rub his back and he was out for the count. Left him on the couch in front of a fan and I went to my nice quiet bed.
Sexless dating.
I can handle it.
Candice...I can't imagine having to have sex twice a week the way I feel. I tense up my whole body and have severe leg cramps afterward a lot of the time... We only have sex about every 3 or 4 weeks...if he's lucky! Besides...I tell him the Viagra is too expensive...$10 a pill!
I'm going through a really rough spell right now. I guess with Mama's illness in May, then her second stroke in July and her death...all the 'stuff' I have had to do since and then the week at the lake I have put too much of a strain on it. The week at the lake was relaxing but I had to pack all our clothes and food and then unpack and there was a lot of work involved in cooking, ect. and the fishing was extremely hard on me. It was all fun but exhausting. Now I have to try to finish packing up my mother's things...decide what to keep and what to sell...then price everything along with all my 'junk' and then...have a HUGE yard sale. Plus, I'm starting back teaching tomorrow. And...I have 2 more trips planned in the next 2 months. Sometimes I wish I could just go to bed and stay there for a couple of weeks! Without having to get the flu or something ELSE to do it!!!
This is the last one...it is from the livingroom back through the rest of the boat. Sorry I wan't in any of them but I left the book at home and couldn't remember how to set the timer on the camara. I meant to have hubby take one of me and me take one of him but I forgot.
Candice.Sex two times a week sounds about average to me. Yes men can be demanding about sex. The words "don't even think about it or leave me be. Or, not now ,Or, you were just here." slide right through their heads. They have a one tract minds when it comes to that. And my hubby is 77. Find a female Dr. Sometimes they are more understanding. You need to resolve this problem.
Ally ..sounds like you have a relaxing arrangement with the man in your life.
Meme.. As always you are the busiest of most women. I hope things get better for you.
Hello Happy... Is it getting cool there yet?
Hello Annagram, Serenity..I hope you had a goood weekend..
Bye...Joanne
Looks like everyone is enjoying the weather. We are having humid, cloudy, rainy weather now but the drought continues in the west.
Well sex - the 3 letter word. When my fibro was at it's worst, it felt like I had a baby in there that was going to drop out at any moment. The pain was continuous for days on end sometimes. Yes, it also affected the hips and thighs at that time too. I had been to specialist and they could find nothing. It wasn't until I read about the gals with fibro that had the same thing, that I realized what was going on.
Since my fibro has been sort of in remission, I have only had a few short pains. Usually when I have been on my feet, or walking too much.
Not doing too good with WW - hard to stick to the points this week. I have been getting more excersize, lots of weeding, walking and going to try skipping rope (lol) this week.
I am sort of looking for a bike, might try riding around the neighbrouhood. That should loose a few lbs.
Oh it's good to be home/ Lot's of stuff to do!!!We are going to the 1000 Islands at the end of the week. More suitcases and hotels but this time it will be fun. We spent a nice relaxing day yesterday and I even won a winter basket at the fair in town. Got to pick it up today. The subject is sex-can't ask me about frequency because I am a new bride but I have a feeling the frequency isn't going to change that much.It never hurts but the tiredness from fibro affects me and stress also. Tomorrow I have to find out about the hormones when I go to the doc. I already have osteoporosis. I hate to give them up!Candice, are you in menopause. That can really affect the way it feels, I had a terrible time back then. Lots of symptoms.I agree that your husband should go with you to the doctors, Candice. I think sex is a great part of marriage and it needs to be worked out and maybe dh would be a little more sensitive if he heard it from the doc. One time I touched Brad's leg and asked him if it hurt and he said no and then he touched mine and the pain is awful. People don't understand the pain we go through and it's always there in ONE PLACE OR ANOTHER. And pain from one place can show up somewhere else. Massage helps me and I go this week. You should see the dog-he keeps opening up a wound so Brad made him a cardboard collar. He's not happy but he is healing. Bye for now. Mima
Candice- I am sure you know this but, as we get older the tissues in the vaginal canal get thinner and a dryness results. That too will cause pain during sex. Sometimes the only thing we need is a lubricate and sometimes a Dr. will give you a scrip for a medication with a light hormone in it. I have had this problem and it does cause pain that will last for a couple to three days sometimes.
Meme- What a nice housebout!! Did you take it out on the water? If I had something like that ,I would want to tke it out on the Gulf and stay for about a week.What a vacation that would be...
Hello All
Joanne
Meme - what a great looking houseboat. A home away from home, alright.
Candice - You can't isolate yourself and not go out, pain or no pain. That is just not healthy phychologically! You need to go out and see people and do things. I have found with chronic pain, it is too easy to say no to fun things. Given the opportunity, you would enjoy getting out and doing more. I still say, GO TO THE GYNE. AND GET A CHECK UP. It may be FM, or it may be nothing at all to do with that, but for your own peace of mind and your marriage, by the sounds of it, go and see about it. I would be devastated if my hubby said something like that to me. I find I isolate more than I used to because it takes to much energy to go out, but I feel better when I go. I am having pain anyway, so it doesn't really matter.
Hi, Ally, Joanne, Serenity and Anagram. Hope you all had a nice day.
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) He gets it in his mind that he needs it at least twice a week whether he can do it or not and I just have to put up with it. Men.....
I just quit going to all my docs....and am treating my Fibro myself........just staying home! If They would get one in this area that new something I would go for help again! I have been treated very badly by docs in the past and do not want to go through that again...unless absoulutley necesssay!
Thanks for the new thread
