[Gekster]

Now that my classes are over and done with I am trying to really kick myself into gear. Unfortunately my BF is of the mind that our house has to be in order before we can start losing weight (we moved 1 day before I started classes and he started work so while a lot of our stuff is organize, our living room is box filled). I have been working on myself for the past month and a half and am already down 13 pounds, and that is just by making little changes.

It is really frustrating for my when I ask him to set up the body gym we have or sit down with me to make a meal plan fo the week he says okay, we can work on the house and then we can do this. All the while, a am stuck doing these things by myself. As much as he says he wants to lose weight, I am really starting to think this "we need to get the house in order" as just another excuse. I am done with excuses though, sure I may have to be inventive with my workout and deal with more temptation than I would if he was in this with me, but I am going to do this!

[L R K]

I know how you feel - sometimes you need their help and support and they just don't seem to get it - the worse part for me is that my fiance can eat pretty much anything he wants and doesn't gain a pound! Sometimes you definitely need the other half on board for support.

[willow650]

start with little things, instead of making week long meal plans, just plan the day with healthier options than what you normally have. Go for evening or morning walks either alone or together.

[bandit2]

You sound like you are determined to lose weight. Just go ahead and make changes for yourself & maybe your bf will see you mean business & get motivated himself. If not, you will already be on your weightloss journey.

Good luck with this!

[Idealmuse]

Having help is great but really you can do this on your own. Maybe your habits will rub off on him even.

I'd let him know how very important this is to him... even if it's been said once before maybe he didn't quite understand HOW much you want this and would appricate the help.

Maybe he will come around, but don't let his apathy hider your progress.

[DCHound]

"we need to get the house in order" as just another excuse

Of course it is. You can't do it for him; just concentrate on yourself and he either will or won't join you at some point.

[Gekster]

I know this is my journey, it is just a little upsetting that he is not joining me in it as we had talked about. I just needed to vent. I appreciate your support. I know that I can do this, and I will, with or without him. And since I do all the cooking it may rub off on him whether he likes it or not lol

[TheWalrus]

Don't know whether this helps, but my husband and I started our journey together, and I was pretty jealous about how quickly he was dropping the weight, while I was struggling...then he got tired of doing it and (although he is trying to eat healthier) stopped exercising and stopped thinking about what he's eating (in terms of amounts). So now he's been static for a number of weeks while I've slowly crept on down (even while having "bad" weeks here and there). The other day, he guessed that I'd lost as much he had...and when he found out that I'd lost almost triple that amount, he was shocked, amazed, proud...and suddenly thinking about his plan again! So, long story short, my recommendation is to be patient and do your own thing -- seeing your progress and that you can still live a "normal" life while losing weight may be all the motivation your boyfriend needs to decide that he's ready to start again.

One little piece of unsolicited advice -- maybe you could work out a plan with him to work on the house for half an hour and then work out for half an hour (or longer)? I know that it drives me CRAZY to have stuff all over our house, and even crazier when it's not mine and I can't do anything about it. A little give-and-take can go a long way...