Lately I've been starting to think that I can really do it this time, and keep it off. I have started to have more self-confidence and instead of feeling overwhelmed with diet and exercise, I am starting to think it's fun, and enjoy feeling better as a result of a new healthy lifestyle. I know I am not going to give up this time. Even though I've lost a little weight here and there over the last few years, I am ready to just do it! In January I decided that this is my year and I'm not giving up no matter what. January and February were good, March not so much. But here I am back on track for April and for the rest of the year (hopefully), and the rest of my life!
The thing is, I am so scared! So many things are starting to go well in my life. I am going on three years in a great marriage. I just started a Master's program to enhance my career, and everything seems to be heading in the right direction in my life (literally for the first time ever, it seems). I am scared that now that I am going to conquer this huge obstacle I have faced my whole life, something TERRIBLE is going to happen. Like I don't deserve this or something and that things can't be this good. Maybe my hubby and I will lose our jobs and our house, or one of use will get sick, whatever other random thing my brain comes up with! All these thoughts keep going through my head and I just need to chill out!
Am I the only one who thinks this way? Please help!
Hi - I actually often feel this way. Like I'm holding my breath waiting for the next thing to go wrong.
I have just started a walking program, have just begun losing again after about a year of being totally unmotivated. I'm back in school taking two courses towards my degree. Things are good with the family. Now I'm waiting for something to go wrong! Why!?
I've been reading motivational books, like the Secret and Eckhart Tolle. I feel it's true that we have to be open in order to allow the Universe's blessings to reach us, and I think that for some reason I've allowed my fat to be a wall to keep blessing and good things out. I don't know why I've done this, but I believe that's what I've done.
Now I feel ready to take my wall down, get the fat off of me, and allow blessing in.
I'm glad I'm not the only one in the world who feels this way, but I'm sorry you are going through it too. It's a very unsettling feeling.
I agree about being open to change. I think I started feeling that way a few years ago and that allowed me to drop some of the weight and make some other big changes, like getting out of an unhealthy relationship and finding a new, healthy one. I've been sort of on a slow road, and I feel like suddenly things are speeding up in a good, but scary way. I can't help but feel like it's going to stop! I guess I just need to keep going and trust that things will be okay no matter what. But it's hard!
I waited for the first 3-4 months for the other shoe to drop. For me to fail. For this fairy tale adventure to be over I finally realized that I HAVE MY FAIRYTALE and it's real and it's OKAY to be excited and live for the now!!!
I waited for the first 3-4 months for the other shoe to drop. For me to fail. For this fairy tale adventure to be over I finally realized that I HAVE MY FAIRYTALE and it's real and it's OKAY to be excited and live for the now!!!
So maybe it's just a matter of getting used to things going right? Maybe when we are so used to trying and failing over and over again, we can't possibly expect ourselves to be able to just accept it right off the bat? Maybe we just need to give it time and then it will just become our "normal", whereas before, our "normal" was failing and things just not working out? I don't know. I'm just kind of trying to think it through. But cfmama, just knowing that you felt that way and still have such great success comforts me so much!
But I figure, it took time to program our minds waiting for bad things to happen and it will take a while, and it will be a struggle, to re-program them.
You are totally allowed to succeed. You're worthy of that success and having happiness in many areas of your life. And good things do not always mean bad things are around the corner.
It can be hard to accept, but we all just have to keep trying. Good luck.
I get that way sometimes but when I do I have to remind myself to stop worrying about "what ifs" and to appreciate what I have going on in my life in the now. Even when life throws us a huge curve ball we can/will adjust even if we think it's the end of the world.....you have to have faith in yourself & leave the rest up to who ever you believe in
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I get that way sometimes but when I do I have to remind myself to stop worrying about "what ifs" and to appreciate what I have going on in my life in the now. Even when life throws us a huge curve ball we can/will adjust even if we think it's the end of the world.....you have to have faith in yourself & leave the rest up to who ever you believe in
Super awesome advice! Thank you. I have kind of been trying to tell myself those things, but for some reason it helps to have someone else say it.
Enjoy these times. I'm sure you've earned them! Enjoy this healthier lifestyle you are creating for yourself. Don't worry about tomorrow. Just concentrate on building a stronger 'You. And, when the hard times come, you will be up to the challenge.
Trust me I know....we lost every thing in Katrina (only pilings were left where our house used to be) and it about felt like our whole world was destroyed. You do have to look on the bright side when bad things happen....not saying I was Miss Sunshine right afterwards but the whole ordeal has let me know I could take on the world if I wanted
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Enjoy these times. I'm sure you've earned them! Enjoy this healthier lifestyle you are creating for yourself. Don't worry about tomorrow. Just concentrate on building a stronger 'You. And, when the hard times come, you will be up to the challenge.
I really like the idea that I am creating this healthier lifestyle and as a result I will actually be stronger and better able to handle any difficulties that come my way. I love that way of looking at it! Thanks!
I find this to be a very pertinent topic for me. I struggle with this constantly. Yesterday I was feeling very good about things, and had been feeling this way for a while. I've been through a divorce in the last 18 months, and things have been up and down. Lately, it's been, objectively, mostly up.
But I still get that awful feeling of something has to be wrong. My son is going to register for summer semester today, so yesterday I was telling him to call me because I'll worry about him. Then, I went off plan at night and went over my points because I was worried.
Sometimes I can control my worrying (and food), and then all of a sudden, not.
I tend to be a pessimist. I keep myself from succeeding because of it. I've just come to realize this in the last five years. It kept me from losing weight for more than twenty years. I was so sure I couldn't do it. Since I started the weight loss I have focused on keeping my negative thoughts under control. I keep reminding myself that I am in control of the situation. It has made a world of difference for me. You can do it too! Don't let yourself keep you from a healthy life. If you stumble you can get yourself back up and back on track.
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I finally realized that I HAVE MY FAIRYTALE and it's real and it's OKAY to be excited and live for the now!!!
