[Thinnerinnerme]

So, yesterday was going well. I ate sensibly, walked a couple times and was journaling. That is, until about 2 when my husband was supposed to get off of work. He called to say he'd be late. I lost my focus, and began to binge.

The thing is, I'm not sure why I can't deal with his being late better. It used to be that I needed a break after watching the baby all day. However, our son is very good and well mannered now so I really don't need that break as much.

Do you have something that sets you off? If so, how have you found to get past that. It seems like my brain just pulls my off in the wrong direction! BTW, he didn't get home until almost midnight so the binge went on for a while.

[kedmo304]

I read two books called When food is Love and Feeding the Hungry Heart that really helped me understand a lot about emotional eating. The author is Geneen Roth and the books are very cheap on Amazon. I don't normally recommend books to people and after reading these books I realized that I do have emotional eating problems but I wasn't exactly one to "binge" these books could help people who do though. Hope maybe if you feel like reading them they could help you.

[Spoz]

I'm taking therapy, its helping me understand why I overeat and why I binge. Obviously past hurts, or low self esteem are huge parts of it. But knowing that isn't enough you really need to work it. So I'm taking therapy, and I'm doing a program to help overcome binge eating from the book by Dr C Fairburne 'overcoming binge eating' the program is supposed to be very successful and has a lot of information on binge eating and a great ability to show that you're most certainly not alone. I would recommend both of these. Remember though it takes a long time, but with dedication you can control binge and comfort eating

[RangerChic]

Most of us are emotional eaters in some way. I know if I get upset or angry, I want to eat. I'm slowly but surely getting over that, but no, it's not easy.
I'd say try to distract yourself as much as possible. If you find yourself wanting to put something in your mouth, ask yourself, "has it been four hours since I last ate?" and, "am I really, truly hungry?"
Good luck, I know it's really not an easy thing to control sometimes.

[QuilterInVA]

I recommend Judith Beck's Diet Solution. It can be used with any diet you like but really addresses cognitive theraphy for overeating and has 6 week's of lessons to teach us to deal with food. There is a very active thread for this under General Diet tab.

[Lori Bell]

Do you trust him? There was a time when I was absolutely sure my husband was cheating on me. In my mind, being "late" could only mean one thing. This line of thinking took me to 333 pounds. I was insecure because of my weight and I couldn't stand to look at myself. If I didn't like myself, how could he? The low self esteem almost killed me, and my marriage. I still don't know if he ever cheated, I can only trust him when he said he didn't. What got me out of my rut was determination to be the source of my own happiness. It is still a work in progress. I can say that my husband is rarely "late" anymore... We have a good relationship and a couple awesome kids.

[Thinnerinnerme]

Oh yes! I trust him. He's in law enforcement and since we met in the academy I have an understanding of what things can make him late. I trust him completely. Thankfully I don't have to worry about that or I'd eat myself into the grave. LOL

As for the books, I'm heading to Amazon to look at each of them. They are definitely the kind I'd like to purchase online! I'll start with one and see what I can learn. I know this has been a problem with me for a while and I want to change it. I'm willing to do the work to change all my bad habits once and for all!

[Lori Bell]

Oh yea...I'm glad about that. LE can be a dangerous job. I'm betting stress and maybe even a little anxiety could play a part in your binges.