[Mammy]

I don't really know if thisfits into this forum
But I've never had anywhere or anyone to talk about these sorts of things before.

I just wanted to talk about how much I hate the weight I've gotten to.
I'm only young and I feel that because ofmy weight I've wasted what are meant t be the best years of my life.

I've always been a fat kid, but it got progressively worst and at the moment I'm at my heaviest and I'm absolutely terrified it's only going to get worse. I just can't believe I let it go this far. And I'm finding it so so so hard to lose it. Because I'll always end up going back to food and i don't know how to stop.

I just hate seeing all my friends look amazing and going shopping with them is humiliating and I always feel so disgusting and low afterwards.

It's gotten to the point where I feel like my weight is going to cost my friends soon. Being Summer in Australia now, all they've wanted to do is go to the beach and pools and that sort of thing. I LOVE the beach and swimming but am far too ashamed of my body to go.

I dunno what the point of this was..I just feel trapped and hopeless. Sorry

[tinamae]

Mammy, Most of us here no exactly what you are talking about and can really relate. I have felt that exact same way. I remember feeling like I had wasted most of my twenties wallowing in my own fat and misery. Take your time and look around these posts, look at the before and after pictures. There are some great pictures and stories to be found. You can do this. Set a mini goal and go for it!

[JulieJ08]

Oh, believe me, you could be 39 and saying that . What a fabulous opportunity to do it now instead of later. But ... you have to start living NOW. Yeah, losing the weight is great, for lots of reasons, but it just does not do magical things for your self-esteem and self-worth. It's easy to think it will, but if you don't have those things now, you'll sabotage yourself when you start getting close to your goal. You can do it! You'll get tons of great ideas, advice and support here.

[clarelou]

oh mammy, im sorry ur feeling down. i, like many others on here can relate to how u are feeling. have a look at some of the goal and mini goal threads on here , they are very motivating.
set urself a mini realistic goal and take it one day at a time, u can change ur weight if thats what you want.
keep coming here for support and motivation.
x

[Hypra]

Being fat doesn't mean you're wasting your life.

Constantly wishing your life was different, you were different, feeling miserable and being your own worst critic - now THATS a waste.

You can look amazing, feel great, have a fantastic life at any size. If losing weight will make you happy- then go for it! But enjoy it, enjoy the journey. Don't waste time waiting for your magical goal weight to start enjoying yourself!

[Mammy]

I actuall feel a lot better.
Thanks a lot!

[Kati]

Okay, now my input.

You cannot stop...your right. Addiction to food is even harder than being addcited to Meth, because you cannot stop eating, or stay away from food. You cannot JUST stop. You have to find out why you are eating, what is the underlying issue that is causing the over eating.

Once you find this, then you can begin to heal and to change. But, remember, you did not learn to over eat in a week, and you will not be able to learn to not over eat in a week.

I am 34 and obese, and I live on a military installation. I know how hard it is, I have to walk, no waddle, around 4,000 fit, trim and buff soldiers. My husband is RIPPED, and I am, well fat.

But, you have started the journey. And like someone already said, you don't waste your life being fat, you waste it by lamenting thefact and not doing something about it.

You go girl, and we will be right here with you!

[Leenie]

I'm going to move this to support, I think more folks will answer/see it.

to you sweetie