Sick and tired of being sick and tired.... - 3 Fat Chicks on a Diet Weight Loss Community

tmeridith · 06-08-2008, 09:29 AM

Hello all! My name is Tracy and I am here to stay! I have started on my weight loss journey for the very last time - I need to "get with the program"!

I am 38 years old, been married for almost 11 years. My weight has always been in the 200's and at the moment I am 214.5 pounds. I think the highest has been about 225 - but it doesn't matter...it just needs to be less! I am looking to be in "one-der land".

I have one son who is five - he is very, very active and seems to be athletically inclined. I don't want to be fat mom at all the games and practices and I don't want to a hypocrite either. I constantly tell him how important it is to eat healthy and to exercise and I don't follow my own advice.

My husband is a great guy - works 40-70 hours a week...but he isn't very supportive of my ventures. I don't think he wants me to lose weight or look better because he works so much and maybe he has his own insecurities. It is tough when all we do together (because of his work schedule) is dine on pizza and beer - go get ice cream or eat chips while watching a movie.

I am a public school teacher and I hate being the fat girl at work, too. I am one of the oldest teachers in the building - at 38 - and the biggest by far. They are young, beautiful and skinny. I feel like an outcast because of my weight and clothes...I don't like it. I know I have a lot to offer anyone but it seems like their attitude is that fat is contagious and I will infect them if they get close. That sounds very whiny, I know...but it is a small town and options for working somewhere else is nil. I am beginning not to like my job because of this and it is really taking a toll on me.

Now for something more positive...I really want to do this and I am looking for a group to help support me and I can support also! I am determined to be successful and I will be successful -Thank God that I have found a safe place to express my feelings, share my success and failures, and give and get support!

I am looking forward to hearing from other people who have recently started on this journey - we can do it!

T.

walking2lose · 06-08-2008, 09:52 AM

Welcome T!!! It sounds like you are really motivated and determined to do this! If you haven't already done this, I think it's really inspirational to read the GOAL section -- there are people on this forum who are amazingly determined and have loss (and kept off) lots of weight, changing their lives in the process.

You can do this, girl! I bet your husband will get on board too when he starts seeing your results and also when he sees how great you're going to feel about yourself!

meowee · 06-08-2008, 09:56 AM

. . . you've come to a great place for lots of support and encouragement . . . we are all here for you.

Lori Bell · 06-08-2008, 08:55 PM

Hi! Oh honey, I can feel your pain! I think it's going to be so fun when you go back to school at the end of the summer all toned and glamorous!! Yes, "one-der land is very achievable in the next 2 1/2 months. (not for me...but definitely for you!).

I know what you mean about the hubby...

You can do it...I can do it...Lets do it!!!

BlzMaxGnrCCJkMly · 06-09-2008, 08:19 PM

RedoBoo · 06-09-2008, 09:08 PM

I feel you pain in this struggle. I too am in dire need of a boost and a kick in the pants. But one that is helpful not one that turns me away.

I have always had a weight issue and it is so on my nerves. People telling you things like "but you look good with a little meat on your bones." (Oh please any more meat and I could take down a whale without thinking about it. I am getting so frustrated with myself and always start off good and within a few weeks, fall flat and then feel rejected once again.

I have a DH that is wonderful and never says one negative thing about me, but his "just this once" or "one time that is all" is getting me into trouble. Because I know not to but I believe him that this will be only one time....not the case.

HELP ME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Boo
aka Beth

fatnfit · 06-09-2008, 09:46 PM

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Originally Posted by tmeridith

Hello all! My name is Tracy and I am here to stay! I have started on my weight loss journey for the very last time - I need to "get with the program"!

I am 38 years old, been married for almost 11 years. My weight has always been in the 200's and at the moment I am 214.5 pounds. I think the highest has been about 225 - but it doesn't matter...it just needs to be less! I am looking to be in "one-der land".

I have one son who is five - he is very, very active and seems to be athletically inclined. I don't want to be fat mom at all the games and practices and I don't want to a hypocrite either. I constantly tell him how important it is to eat healthy and to exercise and I don't follow my own advice.

My husband is a great guy - works 40-70 hours a week...but he isn't very supportive of my ventures. I don't think he wants me to lose weight or look better because he works so much and maybe he has his own insecurities. It is tough when all we do together (because of his work schedule) is dine on pizza and beer - go get ice cream or eat chips while watching a movie.

I am a public school teacher and I hate being the fat girl at work, too. I am one of the oldest teachers in the building - at 38 - and the biggest by far. They are young, beautiful and skinny. I feel like an outcast because of my weight and clothes...I don't like it. I know I have a lot to offer anyone but it seems like their attitude is that fat is contagious and I will infect them if they get close. That sounds very whiny, I know...but it is a small town and options for working somewhere else is nil. I am beginning not to like my job because of this and it is really taking a toll on me.

Now for something more positive...I really want to do this and I am looking for a group to help support me and I can support also! I am determined to be successful and I will be successful -Thank God that I have found a safe place to express my feelings, share my success and failures, and give and get support!

I am looking forward to hearing from other people who have recently started on this journey - we can do it!

T.

Hi! I am the same age as you and I also work in a school. I started my "nutritional restructuring" last wk. I did the dreaded 3 day tuna diet. Not the smartest choice, but I did start off with 8 lbs less on the scales. I am really hoping to find a diet plan that I can follow at home. Not anything with pre-packaged meals, but something that makes sense and can be adapted to a health lifestyle. I know you can do it!

tmeridith · 06-11-2008, 11:21 PM

Hey Everyone! Thanks so much for all the words of encouragement. I knew I came to the right place.

Boo ~ You can do it! We can keep each other on track when we "piddle" out in a couple of weeks! Let's stick with it!

I am going to a family reunion tomorrow in Virginia. I am not really worried about eating too much - it isn't what I call a typical family reunion. Of course I will be the fattest one there - this year - but oh well. I am cutting white sugar from my diet tomorrow....eek

I know the withdrawls will be terrible!

Any of you - Please feel free to PM me - I am trying to get my 10 posts in by Sunday so I can return a message! I will check on us the when I return -

My goals for the weekend are drink water - no sugar...that's it for now...one day at a time!

WE CAN DO IT! HANG TIGHT!

T.

karen0117 · 06-11-2008, 11:52 PM

tmeredith:

I've just started this group too, we are approximately same weight & height. This place seems great, good look on the weekend.

Satine · 06-12-2008, 10:18 AM

HI All !! I too need to kick my butt into gear...I have really let myself slide over the past month...I would be willing to start a group to keep ourselves in check if anyone is interested - just let me know!!

tmeridith · 06-15-2008, 05:41 PM

Hey there Satine -

I would love it that you would start a group! I am in! I only have a few secs...will check back tomorrow!

Thanks!
T.

Tomato · 06-15-2008, 06:11 PM

Hi there!

I know what you mean when you compare yourself to your younger and skinnier colleagues. But you know what - they will 38 one day, too, and maybe heavier than you.
But, it sounds like you really want to do this - it is great to be so determined because you will need it - there are some blips of weakness along the way. :-)

Can you buy a piece of equipment, either a treadmill or an elliptical, that you can hop on and work out on while you watch the movie with your family? You said you are from a small town so I don't know if you have a gym available or not. This is how I started myself - with just a treadmill, and I found 3FC afterwards, when I was researching some problems with running.
I look forward to hearing more from you, and good luck on your journey!

Satine · 06-16-2008, 11:47 AM

T. let me know where you want to start it ( support groups maybe? ) and lets see if we can get some more members...anyone?

tmeridith · 06-23-2008, 09:33 AM

Hello! I think a support group sounds great. I am on vacation at the moment...at the beach and feeling pretty fat, but I know it is a mental state at the moment. I have been watching what I eat and also walking a swimming. I have been trying to do as much as possible. I did weigh myself before I left and will not weigh again until I get home.

Carri - any thing you come up with will be great. I will check in every few days and will see what is up. I am willing to start something also, just let me know.

Keep up the good work everyone. Just being here is a start in the right direction. Take care!

T.

Satine · 06-23-2008, 10:15 AM

T ...wow, enjoy your vacation, that sounds great !!!

I will be thinking of a name that we can start in Support Groups...you think too and see what we can come up with

anyone else feel free to join us