[scooby2]

I am sad. My DH's birthday is coming on March 28th. Last year March 12th we moved to TN and left our family and friends and left where we lived for 15 yrs.. ON March 28th my DH turned 40 and on March 30th my brother in law died at age 35, for no reason, he just did not wake up. He taught my son to swim, he painted the nursery and hung wallpaper when my daughter was born, he spent every Christmas and Easter at my house for 15 yrs. I love him dearly and my entire family will always miss him. As the first anniversary of his death approaches I am sooo sad, I see a dafodill or a potted plant or the shade of blue that we painted the bathroom and I think of him and just feel tears come. We always told him we loved him and he did the same, we have no regrets...except that he is not here....my friends, do not hesitate to tell those that you love them how you feel, you may never get another chance.

[Goomba]

Scooby .. I totally understand what you mean. My Grandmother passed away many years ago .. at out cottage the day following her 76th birthday We were all there when she passed .. which made this event even more difficult. She was a great woman .. whom I loved and admired. She passed away on the first day of Summer. There are so many things that I remember about her .. that I strive to accomplish in my own life. I recall all of the times that I spent with her as a child .. how she was always there for me no matter what!! Her love of people and her faith in God .. her strength and her softness. I miss her so much but I do know that she loved me and is watching over me. At times I feel her near me and smell the sweet fragrence of lilac .. her favorite flower. I never got to tell her how much I loved her that day .. but I do know she knew. So now with the beginning of each Summer I celebrate her life and plant vibrant flowers in my garden but most of all I celebrate knowing that she is part of who I am and who I have become!!

[Leenie]

Scooby,

Your 100% right ! Don't wait to say you love someone because you may never get that chance again.

Life is so precious and should be treated as such for one never know's when the Good Lord is going to call them back home.

I lost my sister also of a sudden death, so I understand just how you feel.

May you find the Peace That Passes All Understanding.

Love Leens

[nasus40]

My grandmother. she was always a big flower and gardener, so as spring approaches i think of her huge gardens, and tons of flowers and sure miss her. I have a rose bush planted in her honor but I am not so good with it as she was. She used to be able to take a sprig of a plant and keep it in her purse for weeks and then take it out and plant it and have it grow to a beautiful plant!!!

[stilltrying]

Hello ladies,

What heartwarming memories. As long as you think of your loved ones when you see the special shade of blue in the bathroom and smell the fragrance of lilac, if you smile when you see masses of spring flowers, they continue to live. How pleased they must be to see how many loving memories they've left behind and what an impact they've had on your lives.

ST

[MamaJ]

I'm sorry that I've not offered much on these threads before-such a mush I am but so hard to open up.

I am so Blessed to still have my parents living, however, I bury the pain that I had not seen my grandparents (all 4 on both sides) before they had passed. I know they are with me and hear my prayers.

I've had many friends and extended family members pass in the last several years ~ and I was Blessed that my good friends here helped me through some of those times.

I must admit that the first day I read this I only lurked. I had paperwork to do but came across a "memorial" card from a funeral from our friend Benny who died suddenly. IThis thread was dated the same day he had passed.

Until today, I didn't tell my DH and I didn't deal with it. But I must admit that the combination of this thread and reminder brought back many loving and fond memories of our time together.

Not to be a downer, but, for myself I must say.....I'm guilty of burying much pain that I don't know how to deal with. Sharing the loving memories and pain with my friends here truly has been a help and seems to help in keeping the love alive.

J