Dancin', the sooner you get out of this the better. It's happened to me, too, once, in particular, when I was in my mid-20s. It was someone who worked for the same company I did, whom I didn't know from Adam, but one day he held the door open for me, I said "thank you" and, apparently, that was all it took for him to fall madly in love with me! Now, I was more naive then than I am now but I did tell him we could be friends, I wasn't interested in him, he claimed that was fine, so we would have lunch together sometimes. While I was keeping him at arm's length, constantly telling him I didn't want a romance with him, just a friendship, he was thinking I was going to eventually change my mind. One time, he even looked up my address and showed up at my house. I did not go out to see him. When I cut the friendship off, he would sit and stare at me from a distance. It all came to a head when I finally lost my temper...he had been watching me and when he saw I was leaving, he jumped up and ran to open the door for me...I lost it and yelled at him to leave me alone...and even then the staring would continue and he would occasionally come over and make remarks to me.
Guys like that tend to take politeness as encouragement and often hear what they want to hear or see what they want to see. She's being nice to me so that means she's interested in me. I'm not a mean person and, like I said, I was more naive then than I am now. I thought this guy would eventually come around to my way of thinking, but he was just waiting for me to change my mind.
Your girlfriends that are loving it have probably never been stalked, right? Because that's what it basically is, even if it doesn't have violent overtones. I've experienced this sort of unwanted, overdone, excessive attention from 3 different people and it doesn't just go away by itself. You have to make it go away.
Do like Barney Fife says and "nip it in the bud!"
Last edited by trekkiegirl; 01-29-2008 at 07:32 PM.
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