Hi Chickie . . .
Not entirely sure I understand your question, because I notice you've been around 3FC for a fair amount of time . . . maybe you just need to become more active on the boards, to really find your niche. I certainly know the support and encourgement around here is a godsend to helping keep me on track.
While you're looking for your special spot (or two, or ten) please come and join our Canadian Support Group . . . here's a link . . .
http://www.3fatchicks.com/forum/showthread.php?t=106341 . . . The rest of the Crazy Canuks will be looking forward to chatting with you.
Hope you have a great moving and shaking kind of evening. See you soon.